"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'v been lying to her the whole time.

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Canadian Catnip

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I have a bit of a dilemma that I need some solid advice on.

As a RAFC I have been experimenting with meeting women and talking to them in order to improve in that area.

I have known this women for about a year now and we sometimes talk. She has a boyfriend and seems to be honestly in love with the guy. I have enjoyed our talks and sometimes have faked interest in what she talks about in order to become a better conversationalist.

Now she is getting closer to me, wanting to spend more time with me because she feels so close to me and believes that I understand her.

To be honest I had selfish motivations from the start when I talked with her, mainly I wanted to get comfortable talking to women. It's gotten a bit uncomfortable for me now when I realize my selfish motives. I did not find her interesting for herself, just that she was a women.

She believes I like her just for herself and I see it as a field experiment.

The closest I can think of is if you are friendly to someone you work with and they want to hang out with you after work and you are put in an awkward position of having to decline the offer because you are only being nice to the person because you have to work with them.

Any suggestions?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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j0n024

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I actually think your hurting yourself by declining the invite...It show's that your not going to fight for her attention and that you could care less about being with her WHICH will make her work for you more.

What I would do is if she invites you to some place go with her but try nothing just talk and have fun dont kino and dont show any sexual eyes ...maybe get her to talk about her problems after that she will probably put you in the friends zone and then smooth sailing...

Kinda weird that your trying to do the opposite of what most guys on here do lol.
 
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just convey the impression that you don't waste time hanging out with female friends. From what it sounds like, that's exactly what it would be -- a waste of time.

Tell her you're busy.
 
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