"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Knight's Cross

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So a friend of mine that I hang out with knew my BPD ex. Tonight while spending some time together my friend revealed that BPD recently married a guy. BPD alluded to being engaged a couple months ago, (her usual BS text messages from time to time which I ignored). Here's the kicker, my female friend showed me some of their wedding pictures....she had them from FBook. Brothers it's true.....BPD's have to constantly lower their mark. Each time picking one that's easier. The dude was.....well chubby would be polite. He's apparently a new doctor (she's a nurse). She has finally found a dude that has placed his balls in her purse. Now BPD was a solid 8+, This guy is so obviously infatuated by her in all the pictures it's hilarious. Once again....we see that the BPD will do whatever she has to to get what she wants. A guy with game would have waived off like I did. This guy, straight out of med school thinks he's won the lottery. Ohh the hell he's in for.....

Thank you SS~
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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hes gonna find out the hard way just like you found out the hard way. thank god you didnt marry her or had any kids with her.

ONE`s man`s garbage is another MAN`s TREASURE
 

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Brothers,
For those of you that constantly get sucked into the,"why do I fall for this chick". I recommend the book, "The Paradox of Choice". The reason we choose things (people, ideas, places) isn't as easy as we think. You'd be surpised at all the research that shows we choose situations that aren't good for us, but are slightly less than downright bad for us. In alot of ways it's the same as why someone stays in a bad relationship. It may not be healthy, but alot of people will choose it over the unknown. Choice to stay or not is up to us. Glad SS helped me open my eyes to the matrix.
Just hope it does the same for others.
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Knight's Cross said:
Brothers,
For those of you that constantly get sucked into the,"why do I fall for this chick". I recommend the book, "The Paradox of Choice". The reason we choose things (people, ideas, places) isn't as easy as we think. You'd be surpised at all the research that shows we choose situations that aren't good for us, but are slightly less than downright bad for us. In alot of ways it's the same as why someone stays in a bad relationship. It may not be healthy, but alot of people will choose it over the unknown.
KC
Ah. But each woman I see is the unknown. Which prevents me from wanting to fall for her. Is she BDP, is she full of daddy issues, does she have an STD, what's her motivation? What's her angle? Being by myself is the known, women are the unknown. Which is why I think its hard for me to see any sort of commitment on my part to a woman.
 

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Warrior, I get your point. After BPD I definitely put the shields up with women and didn't let them in as easily. I probably went too far, but having been burned does that. All I'm saying is that a BPD has to lower her sights after every guy because none too many will put up with her crap. In the case of my ex, she's found a easy mark that she can control. The poor sucker, I can see it in the none too near where she begins her full frontal drama with him. I almost felt like sending him a copy of the police reports and attorney letters from her past. No, I'll forgo that and let him learn the harsh reality of life.....
KC
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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