"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Its staring me in the face, but I still need to hear it

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This will be a little long winded but i'll do my best to clip it down.

Met someone pretty randomly online and we BS'd a while, flirted, etc, and she invites me to a hockey game she has an extra ticket for. Cool, free hockey game, I wasn't much worried about her at that point.

We talk, shes with her friends, but we're joking/talking/flirting, even though at the time I thought she was married. I figured it'd be a chase the prize and move on since I thought she was married and all.

We keep talking for a while, hit another hockey game and what not, keep talking. This goes over a couple of weeks. Finally, one night she txts me and says shes bored, I say the same. We live an hour apart, I said "lets meet halfway and get a bite to eat". We go out, get a bite, go over to a friends house for a few (friend of mine), and finally I told her she can crash at my place or roll home, she rolls home with me, we hook up.

This carries on for a few weeks and we start "dating" and shes telling me she misses me, cares about me, etc etc... but something feels off.

Fast forward a few more weeks. I just let things linger, i've been busy with work and working out (and trying to find a new job) so I haven't much been chasing females, not to mention I just can't afford to be going out. We're supposedly a "couple" and whatnot. Cool. I like the girl, has a temper, has looks, has personality, but its not like I won't leave her.

So fast forward to now. I see this girl once a week, for maybe 2-3 hours. Usually a Sunday afternoon. She tells me shes falling in love with me, always thinking about me, always misses me - but if she really missed me, she'd make an effort to see me. On top of this, I still haven't seen her place (she lives an hour or so away). Something isn't right, i'm being hidden, or someone is hiding something from me.

After... i'm not even sure how long its been... two, three months since we started talking, I can't even get an invite to her place, especially if we're dating, I can't drive over and get a piece?

So I call her out last night, asked why i'm isolated from that part of her life, and if shes keeping options open thats cool because I have girls still calling me. She tells me thats ridiculous because shes always texting me and all, talking to me and whatnot but if someone really misses you or wants to see you, like someone else said in a similar thread, they'll make an effort to see you.

Also, she flirts. She'll flirt with damn near anyone. I mean, I flirt too, but at the same time its some **** when its someone you know, right in front of you, thats some **** that I don't like to let fly.

What the **** is up in my head? Someone talk some sense into me.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If something doesn't 'feel right,' then it probably isn't. Your gut is usually right.

You really give a **** if she's hiding you from someone else? Why? Because you don't want to share her, or are you just upset about the lack of full disclosure?
 

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Furyguy said:
If something doesn't 'feel right,' then it probably isn't. Your gut is usually right.

You really give a **** if she's hiding you from someone else? Why? Because you don't want to share her, or are you just upset about the lack of full disclosure?
Don't know. Maybe the former because if shes with other people, I should be out there too, and the latter because... yeah. Tell me whats up.
 

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I don't know dude. You sound really incongruous right now. You say she's not putting in effort but she's given you multiple free hockey tickets, driven out to have dinner with you, agreed to go home with you later that night, and was the one to bother making the initial effort to set things up on that night in the first place.

Imagine it's the same girl, same situation, but instead of "I love you, I want to be with you" from her every day, it's "I don't want something serious, let's keep this casual and fun." Would you feel any better?


Lastly,
i'm being hidden, or someone is hiding something from me.
It is entirely possible that she is doing you a favor here dude. I have been in this situation. It is when she lets you into her fvcked up life that the bull**** really starts flying. There are any number of situations which could cause her to be "unavailable" for the time being (bat**** crazy Christian conservative parents are a good example of this...). You don't need that bull**** in your life just yet.
 

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Furyguy said:
I don't know dude. You sound really incongruous right now. You say she's not putting in effort but she's given you multiple free hockey tickets, driven out to have dinner with you, agreed to go home with you later that night, and was the one to bother making the initial effort to set things up on that night in the first place.

Imagine it's the same girl, same situation, but instead of "I love you, I want to be with you" from her every day, it's "I don't want something serious, let's keep this casual and fun." Would you feel any better?


Lastly,

It is entirely possible that she is doing you a favor here dude. I have been in this situation. It is when she lets you into her fvcked up life that the bull**** really starts flying. There are any number of situations which could cause her to be "unavailable" for the time being (bat**** crazy Christian conservative parents are a good example of this...). You don't need that bull**** in your life just yet.
Wow, you know thats a great point. She does have a really ****ed up past from some of the parts i've heard. Also the early stuff like the tickets and all that... another good point. Actually a lot of this makes more sense now.

Awesome.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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incongruous: Not in keeping with what is correct, proper, or logical; inappropriate: incongruous behavior.
 

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Well...you know what they say:.... "Like Attracts Like...!"

Most be something you're putting out there...

:cry:

PS.
...good luck with the Job Hunt. I would Never go after or get involved with a women (other than a FB) without having some cash rolling in.
 

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man, it seems you are falling for this girl.......You are caring to much, just be cool an go with the flow.

let her know that you are a man that looks for what he wants and if she is not putting out..... some body else will.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Funny but just a few threads ago i read you putting down someone for what you determined to be irrational behavior..and now i read this??


LOL!

Man...you REALLY need to get some Psycho Help....and fast!

No insult intended but they've got medication for Obsessive Compulsive behavior....See a Dr. Right away.

Please, we all don't want to see another LA Fitness episode take place!!!
 
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Bro...don't tell us that you are falling for something like this....lol~!

:eek:

Come on...Girl~

Man Up!
 
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