"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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its so true...

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i will be attending college out east this year, and on facebook was asked to be friends by an attractive young lady, (who is also attending the same college as I am) i'd say about a 7.5, based on the one time i saw her.

anyway, we talked on IM, i wasn't even trying to pick this girl up, i was just talking, messing around and not taking anything she said seriously. Next thing i know, she says "we should do lunch, call me sometime"

so i said "i need a # first" and boom she gave it to me. I went to meet her on her break, and she said she didn't have break until 1 oclock, she then offered to meet again for lunch, i accepted.

I didn't call her on a couple of days, and each day that went by she would send me an email asking if we could meet up.

Not only is she attractive, but she seems pretty cool, not a stuck up biatch. I'll let you guys know how it turns out.

My point is that it is way too easy, and we only make it harder on ourselves by overanalyzing ****.

I basically just posted this for all the guys that come on here posting their problems, and overanalyzing every little thing their HB does. In no way am I criticizing them, because I used to do the same thing.

So if you are reading this, and you are thinking about posting a question like "she touched her hair 3 times in 1 minute continuosly for and hour and ten minutes, is this a good or bad sign?" Just relax...take it easy, and listen to your OWN feelings. Listen to you gut feeling, and if you crack a smile when thinking about the date you had, you did damn good. If you didn't, then you might have made a mistake..OH WELL. There will be others.

cyjay201

PS If you all remember I was the guy that got cheated on by my ex, I was upset for a few weeks, but since then have gone to the gym, and have gone on three dates with three separate girls, one that 24, one that is 18, and the one i met online is 19. I just want to thank all of you guys that set me straight, because if it weren't for this site, i'd probably still be a depressed afc trying to get over my ex.

cheers fellas.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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With girls that have very high IL such as your encounter, it often goes that way.

Not every girl is like that. And most girls in general wont be too straightforward with you even if they do like you. Some will even play games and pretend to be busy.

But definitely the ones that does counter-offers are usually the ones that are interested, i can say the least.

well its true to never overanalyze a situation, either you know it or you dont/either its true or its false. kind of like a mathematical question. Sometimes things in life are as simple as black and white. just do what you gotta do.


good luck
 

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You still have work to do. a phone # is meaningless. When you do lunch and afterwards you gotta get her in.
 

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Originally posted by snintel
You still have work to do. a phone # is meaningless. When you do lunch and afterwards you gotta get her in.
I agree with you, however I don't see it as work.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
With girls that have very high IL such as your encounter, it often goes that way.

Not every girl is like that. And most girls in general wont be too straightforward with you even if they do like you. Some will even play games and pretend to be busy.

But definitely the ones that does counter-offers are usually the ones that are interested, i can say the least.

well its true to never overanalyze a situation, either you know it or you dont/either its true or its false. kind of like a mathematical question. Sometimes things in life are as simple as black and white. just do what you gotta do.


good luck
I agree, three out of the five girls I've dated played games with me, two of them were psychos, and the other one I actually dumped because she was boring, I do agree with your post though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by cyjay201
i will be attending college out east this year, and on facebook was asked to be friends by an attractive young lady, (who is also attending the same college as I am) i'd say about a 7.5, based on the one time i saw her.

anyway, we talked on IM, i wasn't even trying to pick this girl up, i was just talking, messing around and not taking anything she said seriously. Next thing i know, she says "we should do lunch, call me sometime"

so i said "i need a # first" and boom she gave it to me. I went to meet her on her break, and she said she didn't have break until 1 oclock, she then offered to meet again for lunch, i accepted.

I didn't call her on a couple of days, and each day that went by she would send me an email asking if we could meet up.

Not only is she attractive, but she seems pretty cool, not a stuck up biatch. I'll let you guys know how it turns out.

My point is that it is way too easy, and we only make it harder on ourselves by overanalyzing ****.

I basically just posted this for all the guys that come on here posting their problems, and overanalyzing every little thing their HB does. In no way am I criticizing them, because I used to do the same thing.

So if you are reading this, and you are thinking about posting a question like "she touched her hair 3 times in 1 minute continuosly for and hour and ten minutes, is this a good or bad sign?" Just relax...take it easy, and listen to your OWN feelings. Listen to you gut feeling, and if you crack a smile when thinking about the date you had, you did damn good. If you didn't, then you might have made a mistake..OH WELL. There will be others.

cyjay201

PS If you all remember I was the guy that got cheated on by my ex, I was upset for a few weeks, but since then have gone to the gym, and have gone on three dates with three separate girls, one that 24, one that is 18, and the one i met online is 19. I just want to thank all of you guys that set me straight, because if it weren't for this site, i'd probably still be a depressed afc trying to get over my ex.

cheers fellas.
****. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks man. I overanalysed too much I became paranoid about my girl. It sends off the wrong vibes.

Anyway, great post and good luck bro.
 

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Originally posted by cyjay201
i will be attending college out east this year, and on facebook was asked to be friends by an attractive young lady, (who is also attending the same college as I am) i'd say about a 7.5, based on the one time i saw her.

anyway, we talked on IM, i wasn't even trying to pick this girl up, i was just talking, messing around and not taking anything she said seriously. Next thing i know, she says "we should do lunch, call me sometime"

so i said "i need a # first" and boom she gave it to me. I went to meet her on her break, and she said she didn't have break until 1 oclock, she then offered to meet again for lunch, i accepted.

I didn't call her on a couple of days, and each day that went by she would send me an email asking if we could meet up.

Not only is she attractive, but she seems pretty cool, not a stuck up biatch. I'll let you guys know how it turns out.

My point is that it is way too easy, and we only make it harder on ourselves by overanalyzing ****.

I basically just posted this for all the guys that come on here posting their problems, and overanalyzing every little thing their HB does. In no way am I criticizing them, because I used to do the same thing.

So if you are reading this, and you are thinking about posting a question like "she touched her hair 3 times in 1 minute continuosly for and hour and ten minutes, is this a good or bad sign?" Just relax...take it easy, and listen to your OWN feelings. Listen to you gut feeling, and if you crack a smile when thinking about the date you had, you did damn good. If you didn't, then you might have made a mistake..OH WELL. There will be others.

cyjay201

PS If you all remember I was the guy that got cheated on by my ex, I was upset for a few weeks, but since then have gone to the gym, and have gone on three dates with three separate girls, one that 24, one that is 18, and the one i met online is 19. I just want to thank all of you guys that set me straight, because if it weren't for this site, i'd probably still be a depressed afc trying to get over my ex.

cheers fellas.
We need more posts like this. Cool.
 
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