"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's so hot and I don't want to cook

Maxtro H & F

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For the past two days it's been in the upper 90's :eek:

The last thing I want is to eat something hot, cooking is even worse.

What are some good things that can be eaten cold besides a sandwitch?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Quiksilver

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Join the club mate, I live in Aus now and its above 30C every day. My kitchen feels like standing in an oven when I cook food and at night I sleep with a fan on my face.

It's a battle that will never get any easier, and you're going to have to fight it every day.

Might as well man up and cook the damn food.

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p.s. Reward yourself for winning those small mental battles. For instance, for the past many(many) months I've been drinking bad things... beer, fruit juice, energy drinks, etc etc. Last week I decided it was time to get back on my old(and very successful) Water + Green Tea only method. It's tough because after having a can of coke or a nice dry frosty beer, green tea and tap water isn't very appealing.

So, for 5 days if I wanted a beer/soda, I'd make myself have a mug of hot/cold green tea first. This week, I've kept the green tea and dropped the soda's and beer.

It's the bait & switch method.

Another one...

When I was struggling with cooking consistency(like you are now), I decided to reward myself every time I cooked. Find something sweet, some sort of treat or beer or whatever you want, and give yourself little rewards for doing the right thing. Then cut out the rewards, and doing the right thing won't seem as difficult.

It's like dog training, make him roll over and give him a treat every time. Then make him roll over and give him a treat sometimes.
Then make him roll over and give him a treat rarely.
Then make him roll over and you won't have to give him a treat.

Train yourself ;)

p.s. listen to music while you're cooking. My cooking sessions can last well over two hours(i cook for a week in advance), and nothing passes the monotony like music or audiobooks.
 

BudBundi

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Fruit and salads are good cold foods. Cold cuts are fine by themselves too. Add a touch of mint to a meal to give it a little extra chill if you have to.

Phoenix provides many learning opportunities.
 
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