"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's so hot and I don't want to cook

Maxtro H & F

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For the past two days it's been in the upper 90's :eek:

The last thing I want is to eat something hot, cooking is even worse.

What are some good things that can be eaten cold besides a sandwitch?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Quiksilver

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Join the club mate, I live in Aus now and its above 30C every day. My kitchen feels like standing in an oven when I cook food and at night I sleep with a fan on my face.

It's a battle that will never get any easier, and you're going to have to fight it every day.

Might as well man up and cook the damn food.

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p.s. Reward yourself for winning those small mental battles. For instance, for the past many(many) months I've been drinking bad things... beer, fruit juice, energy drinks, etc etc. Last week I decided it was time to get back on my old(and very successful) Water + Green Tea only method. It's tough because after having a can of coke or a nice dry frosty beer, green tea and tap water isn't very appealing.

So, for 5 days if I wanted a beer/soda, I'd make myself have a mug of hot/cold green tea first. This week, I've kept the green tea and dropped the soda's and beer.

It's the bait & switch method.

Another one...

When I was struggling with cooking consistency(like you are now), I decided to reward myself every time I cooked. Find something sweet, some sort of treat or beer or whatever you want, and give yourself little rewards for doing the right thing. Then cut out the rewards, and doing the right thing won't seem as difficult.

It's like dog training, make him roll over and give him a treat every time. Then make him roll over and give him a treat sometimes.
Then make him roll over and give him a treat rarely.
Then make him roll over and you won't have to give him a treat.

Train yourself ;)

p.s. listen to music while you're cooking. My cooking sessions can last well over two hours(i cook for a week in advance), and nothing passes the monotony like music or audiobooks.
 

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Fruit and salads are good cold foods. Cold cuts are fine by themselves too. Add a touch of mint to a meal to give it a little extra chill if you have to.

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