"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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It's possible to spin plates while in a committed relationship.

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Quick story here.

I'm in an exclusive relation with this girl.

One night we went out to the bar with a few of our friends.
One of my said friends is an attractive slutty type chick.
She was giving me praise all night about how great I am.
the three of us make plans to go to my place after ( exclusive girlfriend, female friend and myself)

On our way back to my place my girlfriend gets a call from some friends about some house party and askes if we can go. It sounds like a dive of a plan for me so I state I'm not interested. She then says she wants to go anyway.

My response was a simple " fine, go. Me and my friend will just chill at my place alone :up:"

This of course set her hamster in overdrive.
I was never planing on banging my chick friend, but she was worried that i would and decided not to go to the house party.

Its totally possible to spin plates while in a commited relationship.

Frame. check
High value. check
Social proof. check
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What You're Asking is a Contradiction in Terms

Question, why would you want to spin plates while in a committed relationship? It sounds as if what you truly want to is to have a steady supply of nookie, while being able to bang other chicks. If that's that case, you should break up with your current girlfriend so you can indulge in coitus with other women, then you'll be free to bang other chicks. This will also remove the possibility of acrimony between you and your girlfriend because you won't be cheating on her.
 

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It's not a matter of spinning plates per say.
Just that my girlfriend saw me as high value in the eyes of another women.
Though I would not cheat on her, the thought of it came to her.
I believe this keeps my frame, since she acts according in fear of me walking.
I have no desire to bang multiple chicks.
So far this one is what i am looking for.
 

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That's just bad-boy attitude, I don't care sort of thing. And yeah, it works.

But actively doing it because you want your girlfriend more seems a pointless endeavour. Keeping her keen is fine but there's no need to overdo it, you are with her. Plus you can still be friends with other chicks so no hassle.

Just dont try to make her jealous or spin her head too much, since you'll end up with a messy GF and its harsh for those who dont know whats going on in the background. Not saying you are doing this but you get me bro.
 

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Thanks for the advice don kong.

Sure i already have her but I feel those little reminders that I'm a prize to others helps me keep her interest.

Games not over once you get her.

Continuous social proof helps
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don-Kong

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I hear ya homes.

But its all internal. You are the prize, yup. If you fully believe it, then you dont need anyone else to know it, they will know.

It comes from your energy within. Your presence. You don't need to show it or make others think it. They will know it from your inner state. Inner game.

That, that stuff is infectious, desirable, magnetic. Thats the real shizzle yo.
Work it homes :)
 

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Re read your title, its contradictory. If you are committed then why would you want to. The commitment is clearly one sided then.
 
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