"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Tigger

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After dating this girl for three weeks... we never argue.. we had a great time... she call me everyday... looking serious.. Then, BAM... I get no call from her for three days. I confronted her and ask.. what is wrong... she replied nothing wrong. If I dont call you for three days, it does not mean I'm not thinking or care about you.. I smile and I new it was over.

We ague about it and she told me.. "I want to call you and I don't want to call you. I was thinking about eveytime we are together, you make me laugh and we have a great time. She tells me that... You want some thing that I can't give you now.. (relationship). I told, her do you want this to end, she replied, yes and no! I want to call you and I don't.. "

I ended the coversation with this.. Call me this week if you want to go out.

Tell me.. did I make the right decision or just let this girl go?

Steve
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alphathree

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Just don't contact her anymore until when/IF she gets back to you.

Whenever a woman has mixed feelings, it's almost certainly due to some AFCness on your part.

I can't tell you what you did without more information. You may have been:

-- Too available (communicates low status)
-- Too needy/attention*****ish (communicates low status)
-- Tryhard. I.e. instead of just doing your shiate and making her laugh in the process, you seemed to be TRYING to make her laugh all the time. This also communicates low status.
 

griffon65

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Like he said unless you give more info its hard to tell what happened. You mentioned that she would call everyday. I'm guessing you talked to her everyday then? If you did you may have been too avaiable.
 

Tigger

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To available.. Is it wrong for me to call everyday and ask.. HOw are you doing?

Someone should write a book what to do when you start dating a girl.


I never though calling someone and say hello is to needy..


OLd fashion guy
Steve
 

Scoiland

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Originally posted by Tigger
To available.. Is it wrong for me to call everyday and ask.. HOw are you doing?

Someone should write a book what to do when you start dating a girl.


I never though calling someone and say hello is to needy..


OLd fashion guy
Steve
if you do that you will seem like you have nothing better to do

Men are out doing manly things, not talking on the phone

A girl wants a man
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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