"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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After dating this girl for three weeks... we never argue.. we had a great time... she call me everyday... looking serious.. Then, BAM... I get no call from her for three days. I confronted her and ask.. what is wrong... she replied nothing wrong. If I dont call you for three days, it does not mean I'm not thinking or care about you.. I smile and I new it was over.

We ague about it and she told me.. "I want to call you and I don't want to call you. I was thinking about eveytime we are together, you make me laugh and we have a great time. She tells me that... You want some thing that I can't give you now.. (relationship). I told, her do you want this to end, she replied, yes and no! I want to call you and I don't.. "

I ended the coversation with this.. Call me this week if you want to go out.

Tell me.. did I make the right decision or just let this girl go?

Steve
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just don't contact her anymore until when/IF she gets back to you.

Whenever a woman has mixed feelings, it's almost certainly due to some AFCness on your part.

I can't tell you what you did without more information. You may have been:

-- Too available (communicates low status)
-- Too needy/attention*****ish (communicates low status)
-- Tryhard. I.e. instead of just doing your shiate and making her laugh in the process, you seemed to be TRYING to make her laugh all the time. This also communicates low status.
 

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Like he said unless you give more info its hard to tell what happened. You mentioned that she would call everyday. I'm guessing you talked to her everyday then? If you did you may have been too avaiable.
 

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To available.. Is it wrong for me to call everyday and ask.. HOw are you doing?

Someone should write a book what to do when you start dating a girl.


I never though calling someone and say hello is to needy..


OLd fashion guy
Steve
 

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Originally posted by Tigger
To available.. Is it wrong for me to call everyday and ask.. HOw are you doing?

Someone should write a book what to do when you start dating a girl.


I never though calling someone and say hello is to needy..


OLd fashion guy
Steve
if you do that you will seem like you have nothing better to do

Men are out doing manly things, not talking on the phone

A girl wants a man
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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