"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I am so down at the moment. It's not happening for me. I've been on this site since 2002 and i've had 0 success.
I'm 17 years old, and I've never kissed a girl, never mind lost my virginity.
I hit the gym four times a week, I'm the most ripped guy at school. I'm not ugly, infact i'm about an 8 in looks. None of this matters however, because girls just arn't interested. I have one friend (a girl), who LJBF'd me, and treats me like crap, but I can't get rid because I have no-one else. I have no guy mates. I'm a funny guy, I'm interesting, but I might aswell be dead. I've busted my ass trying all this Dj stuff. I got rid of my glasses, joined a team, but all to no avail. I just don't have that "it" factor that every other guy seems to have. I give up, there's no-one been attracted to me in 17 years, and it's a crushing thought that I can't escape.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm 18. Same situation (I'm not ripped though, but I got some ****yness :))

I find it very unusual how you have only one friend. You MUST, must...please tell me that you talk to somebody else on a regular basis...please.

Now...tell me about how you react with the people on your team..do you shell up and isolate yourself..or do you talk, got some buddas...you know..tell me something. Then...hang out with them...not some team go-geter crap, like actual hanging out, play some video games...build a friend base...and sarge.
 
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Theres no way there arent any girls attracted to you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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*sigh*

Yeah, there's others I talk to, but not as close as her. Yeah, I'm cool with the guys on the team, but I'm still getting to know them. I know this just sounds like me self-pitying, but I have tried my hardest with aload of girls, and all I get is LJBF. The last one told an aqaintance of mine:

He's smart, funny, good looking, interesting, great to be around, a proper man, but I just don't fancy him.

So actually told me "you're too nice to sleep with (guessing thats the prob), if we started going out and then finished I'd never see you again, and I don't want that" perlease....

Thats what I'm on about, I have all those qualities, but I just can't make it "click". I will keep trying, but it's a hard thought to stomach, that so far I havn't had any success.
 
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you got everything a girl wants...all you need is attracting then (C&F!)

Why..because I'm a perfect guy (minus looks to them, I think I look good..from before), same deal.

Keep updating!
 
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I will do, there's no way I'm whining and giving up. It was just a sobering thought, to be 17, and have done nothing with a girl. Time for some cold approaches I think, high school girls suck.
 
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I will do, there's no way I'm whining and giving up.

high school girls suck.
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keep going dont stop till you hit your mark, and quite so they do.......
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Same situation, 18 in a few weeks.

Although I don't go to the gym, I have a nerdy style to blame it on.

btw, whatteheck do you mean by 'LJBF'?
 
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What, is it some kind of abbreviation?
Or did you just choose some arbitrary letters?

Obviously I can't read minds.

And what's with all the euphemistic spellings? Why don't they just disable the censoring. Weather you spell it '****' or 'fvck', it's still means the same. So what's the point? I thought I read somewhere you weren't allowed to use profanity.

Edit: added an apostrophe where appropriate
 
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wow bro stop being so nerdy.... to proteus...and speakin from a kid who just started gettin in the game... one thing i use is just smiling in the hallways... i dunno why but it works...tell yourself a funny joke and just smile as you walk in the hallwayus between periods... all your guy friends will slap your hand and what not and girls will look at you and think "hes always smiling....he must have confidence" therefore building mystery... i know its noit alot bro but you gotta try somethin... hope i helped alittle
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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