"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Its not what you say its what you dont say.

check_mate_kid_uk

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Sure there are certain things you can say to a girl which are good things to say and could increse attraction such as a compliment, but i realised something. Much of the impresion a girl will make is based on the sound of your voice and your body language, there is research done that supports this fact that this accounts for 90% of the first impression.

I realised why people say be yourself, and thats because its true, just be genuine and yourself and there is no special things you need to say, only certain things oyu need to avoid saying.

You need to avoid bosting about yourself.

Dont talk about a subject that will bore her e.g. technical details of your car.

Dont try and sell yourself by telling her every detail about your life, an interesting and relevant story yes but not too much.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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42-Colrath

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I definitely get what youre saying but how about your voice? I cant seem to figure out my voice lol. When im around people I change it subconconciuosly. It changes when im around afrimericans, then it changes around close friends, then it changes around family, then it changes around girls. I think i sound really gay around the girls. Like a girl will totally dig me but when I talk it can sometimes cost me a number. How do I find my voice lol?
 

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Only you can figure that out.
why don't I help you out w. question...

How do you find you?
 
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