"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Its not always good to be the alpha male of your group
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
GloriouslyInsane
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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organizedconfusion
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that's soo true..theres nothing more annoying than a group of guys arguing because they all want to go to the place THEY want to go for the night,and not opening up to any other suggestions! :cuss:brucevangeorge said:
everyone wants to be a leader but no one wants to listen, all too busy trying to take charge and tell everyone else what to do..soo fvcking obnoxious, sometimes you have to tell everyone to shut the fvck up in order to get things done
now,who's the 'real alpha' - it's not always the one in charge that has the most power, but the one that get's things done one way or the other. IMO.it reminds me of a guy that kept woofin' at me about all the shyte he was gonna do to me getting all wrailed up and everything for no apparent reason..i sock the guy so hard he let out a squirm like a little girl..i didn't say anything..he had it coming to him
is that alpha? who cares? i say that theres no set rule for anything.."You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
True, and wouldn't you think that the problem with most guys is that they worry about social status way more than appealing to women? It's as if just because they're the leader of a bunch of cavemen that women will flock to them. It's crazy what guys will do to define themselves.brucevangeorge said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Very good point. We've all seen it in all areas (even in this forum) the higher you go beyond the masses, the more of a target you become. There's always someone somewhere wanting to knock you down a peg and to climb over you. Not saying that it's right or wrong, it's just the way that it is.Noob said: