"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's Hard pickin up girls with my boys around

Bigg Boss

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I'm a freshman in college and my two best friends here are pretty good with girls, know how to play the game. So I'm in the perfect position


But when we do approach sets (or whenever they just appear and we start talkin to them) then it seems like it more of a battle between us. And when there is one good looking chick, I hate to even try to game her because it seems like all of us are trying to get at her. So I tend to be the one to back off and start to act disinterested.


This happens all the time. How do you game on a girl when you have competition in the midst? Should I keep trying to gain that alphaness and then eventually I'll just be alpha in the whole situation naturally?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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dav22

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I'd avoid 'trying' to do anything as that's being fake and it's easy to spot.

Really the problem is nothing to do with your friends. It's to do with you. Work on building up your own confidence and forget about your insecurities.

By working on yourself you'll get to the point where you won't see your friends as competition.
 

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Bigg Boss said:
...This happens all the time. How do you game on a girl when you have competition in the midst? Should I keep trying to gain that alphaness and then eventually I'll just be alpha in the whole situation naturally?
And these are you best friends? I think you guys need to look up "camaraderie" in the dictionary. If you boys can't play nice together, maybe should should think about doing something different.
 

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Im not quite understanding. Why don't you spot a cute girl and approach her without mentioning it to your friends? They won't even know and you already have this hottie's number. You rather approach a girl alone not with your friends.
But the other guys are right.....dont worry about ur friends
 

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You and your friends can pick which ones you want or go for a tag team. Or don't always go for the 10's at a party. Interact with all the girls; fat, ugly, rich, poor, slutty. It don't matter; this way you have a chance to practice your game on all women. Be more of a better catch then your friends. Go somewhere without your friends sometime. Do something to set yourself apart from your friends when it comes to getting women.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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young_gun

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Why don't you try isolating the girl you're with? Just a thought.
 

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Yeah I believe its all in my mind. They aren't actually blocking or anything.
 

moto

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young_gun said:
Why don't you try isolating the girl you're with? Just a thought.
thats what i was trying to say
 
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