"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's Good To Be Dating Again

Desdinova

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After 8 months of keeping my ass single (and fvcking an orbiter), I'm dating a 34 year old British redheaded nurse. Could be a little hotter, but I'm not seeing any red flags as of yet which is a nice change. Really fun chick to hang out with, has her own car, her own place, seems really into me. I have fvck all in common with her, but after 8 months I've gotta start somewhere.

I've really come to detest dating women after the last few pieces of trash that fell my way. Staying single for 8 months was a much needed break to let some of the anger out of my system. I think I've finally settled down enough to actually enjoy the company of a woman.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good for you, but any chick who is 34 better damn well have her own place and own car, etc. No? Talk about bottom of the barrel pickings. Since I'm thinking of that, let me also share this.

My neighbors right next door to me are a nice married couple starting to enter their retirement years and all their kids are grown and have their own lives.

Except one.

Their oldest daughter, who is right around my age, still lives with them. She moved back in after she got divorced from her husband (first marriage for both) and also had her first kid. This all happened around 10 years ago. Yep, 10 years ago. Since then she's taken no real initiative to try and move back out on her own at all. She and her son are nice enough and they make great neighbors too, but my god, talk about just letting yourself go. She's closing in on 40 and in the entire 10 years she's been there I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen some guy come to the house for a date. She may have had others I don't know about, but the fact that she can't close the deal on any of these guys is really telling. It also doesn't help she's overweight and on a good day I'd be generous in rating her at about a 4.5.

She's going to end up a very bitter old woman in her later years.
 

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Desdinova said:
After 8 months of keeping my ass single (and fvcking an orbiter), I'm dating a 34 year old British redheaded nurse. Could be a little hotter, but I'm not seeing any red flags as of yet which is a nice change. Really fun chick to hang out with, has her own car, her own place, seems really into me.
I can't imagine dating a girl who didn't even have her own car. Unless you live in some place like New York or something where you don't really need one. I expect a chick to have her sh!t together to that extent, at least.

Not sure where you meet a British nurse, either. I don't think I've ever met a Brit in my life. I am highly attracted to redheads though, I'm jelly. Glad you are enjoying yourself. :up:
 

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Good for you. IMO nurses and similar professions tend to be higher quality women than many other professions women claim to do or simply don't do. Being British, that may make this one an even better catch yet. Being redhead, that will just make her a h0rney little cat. Anyway, the caring, nurturing drive they have to be nurses, IMO, comes out in their personal lives and makes them relatively good genuine people and partners. Without genuine care and respect for human beings and the ability to roll with the punches one could never be a nurse. Or at least not last very long as one.
 

Desdinova

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I was chatting with a chick on OKC and she suddenly disappeared for a few days. Today I got this...

Also, I was thinking of deleting this account, would you care to exchange cell numbers?

I hope you receive this, my cell number is xxx-xxxx. Shoot me a text, I'm done with this site!
She deleted her account and delightfully placed all the power into my hands. She was also fairly attractive, and we have stuff in common.

The abundance seems to be returning!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Glad to see you surrendered any deleterious thinking, and moved forward with an open, fresh mind. Sometimes a break is needed for this purpose. :up:
 

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The adventures of Desdinova. I come and go through the years and I always look forward to what you do next. haha.
 
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