"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's been a year...what am I doing wrong?

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captain55

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I put myself out there, I do the online thing, every single chick I've dated since my ex has been a higher quality woman, I don't feel the same way about any of them as I did with her. We were mutually attracted to each other and in love, as love as a borderline woman could be anyway.

I've taken my game to a new level and Ive been with some beautiful women, Im the definition of alpha (not always but overall this year Im dam proud of myself...I very very rarely get hung up on chicks. Only 1 this year to date ) But that doesnt change the fact that Im not happy at all with my love life. I have a bunch of useless contacts in my phone of *****es I could give two ****s about, other than banging.


I just want to be accepted, and loved by a woman Im extremely attracted to who stays loyal to me. Im so ****ing tired of spinning plates and all this bull****. And sometimes I cant help but feel like dating a BPD has made me part borderline myself. I find myself losing attraction and interest in women overnight, the moment I have them.

Give me another borderline...I dont give a **** if I was walking on eggshells 90% of the time the other 10% of the time it was damn worth it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ummmm yeah...I had one like that that I still am not really over no matter how many I bang...but remember its all in your head.
 
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captain55 said:
Give me another borderline...I dont give a **** if I was walking on eggshells 90% of the time the other 10% of the time it was damn worth it.
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It's never worth it to walk on eggshells. If you can't be yourself and someone love you for that then it's not right.

I've been there bro- depression hits in funny ways. It may be another year but you WILL find someone. Giving up means you WON'T.

It takes time but sooner or later you need to realize that it will come. You'll find someone attractive, funny who loves you for who you are.

You build that bond, it doesn't happen over night, just like you did with your EX. Stop thinking that bond will be there from the start.
 
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It's all about Ego attachment and mind identification.

Read about the subject and you will know exactly what's your problem is.
 
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