"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

its barely 2018 and I've lost 2 people I know

PokerStar

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 28, 2009
Messages
635
Reaction score
63
Location
Location
Lost my uncle to old age and a friend to a car accident all on New Years morning.

is this some sorta sign saying 2018 will be f*cked?

not a great way to start the year.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

ubercat

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 6, 2015
Messages
3,671
Reaction score
2,309
Location
Australia
Condolences mate that is very tough. Talk to people don't close up. Have a drink or two in their memory and remember what made them special.

For yourself as much as possible try and stick to your routine. Routine is good for men in tough times.
 

KingofPuss

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2014
Messages
2,283
Reaction score
903
Location
Texas
Spend your time mourning brother. Try to do it as sober as possible, feel the emotions and allow yourself to remember the good as much as possible.

I'm sorry for your loss. The only way the year will be bad is if you allow yourself to get down and out. I know, easy for me to say. But be strong, reach out for help. We're all here for you, you have family, friends, loved ones, be with them in this time. When you're ready start back to improving yourself and making your uncle and friend proud.
 

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,680
Reaction score
4,877
Man, I'm sorry to hear that. That's pretty much how my 2017 was. Last year I lost my dad, my sister, a guy who I considered my 'second dad', a great co-worker, and a long-time friend.

I think everyone gets a 5hit storm at least once in their life. It fvcking sucks, but that's just how things go. Take care of yourself and keep moving forward.
 

Reykhel

Banned
Joined
Aug 19, 2015
Messages
2,152
Reaction score
1,739
Lost my uncle to old age and a friend to a car accident all on New Years morning.

is this some sorta sign saying 2018 will be f*cked?

not a great way to start the year.
Consider your uncle fortunate to have died of old age. Consider the car accident fate.

"Everything that you cannot control by applying your reason is ultimately out of your hands. It is fate. Fate happens. Treat it with indifference"

No it is not a sign, let's not start creating self fulfilling prophecies now.

Now is a moment to be careful of making this about you, about feeling sorry for yourself. Now is a time for ultimate self care, mental fortitude,
grieving with dignity and honor and self respect.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,653
Reaction score
6,602
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
Sorry to hear it man. Don't take it as a metaphysical thing though. Sometimes bad happenings group together.
 
Top