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Master Don Juan
Let's hope he at least crashes and burns.STR8UP said:I'm sure he won't mind me picking up the pieces when he crashes and burns![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Let's hope he at least crashes and burns.STR8UP said:I'm sure he won't mind me picking up the pieces when he crashes and burns![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
pop music kills!!fuzzx said:I blame this on the boy bands. They play all this sappy, whiny music and fill their videos with hot chicks. Young men make the wrong connection
I like that music!!!
You don't like it when men get you mad and they they kiss you?STR8UP said:• get her mad, then kiss her. [this makes me angry when guys do this.]
The world will be much less frustrating if you can keep reminding yourself of this.STR8UP said:...I guess I can't change the world.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Only to get shouted down and ridiculed for being "bitter" (female word to make what you say meritless) instead of "awakened" and "concerned" and desiring to help others.AgonyUncle said:So its not like it was 5 years ago. Men are starting to realize that they are not alone. As more and more men go through this crap, not knowing what the hell they have actually done wrong in many cases, they stumble across websites like this in a search for answers.
Wow... I guess the joke isn't funny if I have to explain it. See I pretended I misunderstood what was being said and then used a famous poster... oh nevermind...mrRuckus said:Only to get shouted down and ridiculed for being "bitter" (female word to make what you say meritless) instead of "awakened" and "concerned" and desiring to help others.
See post about pook above.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.