"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's all over (for my young marrage advisors)

MichaelangelloB

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Well now it's really over. She's gone, and although I should feel happy I feel pretty low.

Tell me again why this is is good thing. And if it is, my is it so hard to move on?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Omega

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Cause your 19 and you got a good 10 years of hardcore single life left.
 

TheInfamousCBear

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Originally posted by MichaelangelloB
Well now it's really over. She's gone, and although I should feel happy I feel pretty low.

Tell me again why this is is good thing. And if it is, my is it so hard to move on?
Stop crying, you just saved alot of money...I remember when I was 17, we went to an amusement park for a school trip...And there was these girls, they flirted and I spent like $80 on those b1tches, and I didnt even get anything in return...Thats when I realized that I dont think I could ever spend money on a woman besides my mother...I just cant do it...People ask me why I dont have a girl, and its cause I dont want to spend money on them while dating...If a girl starts talking about me spending money, I just leave the girl, I dont care how good she looks...

Damn I should of stayed on topic...Sorry...
 

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Because you're human

Hidden behind all the posturing on this site is the failure to acknowledge that hurting when breaking up with a woman is a natural thing.

Believe me, 99.9 percent of the DJ's here have been hurt or bummed, if not, they're robots. Besides, about 80 percent of them are lying here when they write stuff. Most say they're making 6 or 7 figures, are b-nging a different woman every night and have never been bummed about a breakup.

B.S.

You hurt because you're human and perhaps you actually have a soul and a heart. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging pain and using that as a catalyst to improve your life.

Breaking the engagement and breaking up was the right thing to do. Sure you're gonna be bummed for awhile -- if you weren't than the relationship meant nothing.

But move forward the best you can. Ignore the posers here who say they've never been hurt. B.S. And the ones that supposedly never have been hurt have no soul or heart and will live out the rest of their days in an old folks home or solo apartment all by themselves as bitter old men.

Now go out there, date up a storm and have fun!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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100% correct Westcoaster :)
 

cave dweller

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loss

Your dealing with a loss. (broken heart)

Life is about loss.

Examples:

My friend lost his chance at promotion.

I lost my good job.

My neighbor lost her mother.

You lost your girlfriend.

What don't kill you will make you a stronger man!

cave dweller
 

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No you tell your heart why its a good thing !

Do the Pros and Cons thing

Take a large piece of paper
Write across the top the heading "breaking up with XXXX(Her name)"
Draw a line down the middle making two colums.
Left colum you write the heading "Good things" (pro)
Right colum heading "negatives" (con)
Now play procecutor and defendant !
For each and every negative thing you can think of and list to the right side, the defence gets to cross examine and also gets to put a good thing on the left side list.

Dont think about how you feel about the things you write (good and bad) Just write them down like a DJudge would ! fair and equal !

Your logical mind will plain on paper know. You will be suprised at the result and wonder why anybody at all is in a relationship. Feelings somehow cloud our logic ! Now is the time for Your logic to clear your feelings.

Try it and give us a feedback.
 
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