"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Its all a numbers game

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Thats all that there is to game really. Its just maths and statistics. Eventually even the biggest loser will get lucky now and again. It dont matter how lame your game is (within reason) as long as one is prepared to approach and keep approaching he will get his.

It all sounds very simple and it is. Having said that there is another important characteristic that one needs to have : thick skin. If you wanna get good or even lucky now and again you gotta be able to have amnesia in a way. You gotta be able to brush away even the nastiest rejections and keep moving forward. Keep playing the game.

Babe Ruth had it right when he said each strike out brings me closer to a home run. In same way each rejection brings one closer to getting a girl.

Disclaimer : This is just if you dont care about quality as such and are not looking for a wife. But if you want the top notch talent you better be top notch talent yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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True....rejections are never as bad as you think they will be.

The emotion of fear has a he11 of a way to blow things out of proportion. When you think rejection you always think worst case scenario...."NO. I THINK YOUR UGLY NOW GET AWAY FROM ME".....when in reality its more like "ohhhh sorry. I have a boyfriend".
 
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TheException said:
True....rejections are never as bad as you think they will be.

The emotion of fear has a he11 of a way to blow things out of proportion. When you think rejection you always think worst case scenario...."NO. I THINK YOUR UGLY NOW GET AWAY FROM ME".....when in reality its more like "ohhhh sorry. I have a boyfriend".
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Yes exactly but the majority of guys cant get past this rejection barrier. Some just have a big egos, others are too sensitive. Thats why growing a thick skin so to speak is very important especially for newbies who are not super models. Be prepared to be rejected and move on.
 
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The guys this thread is aimed up usually are starting with pretty low self esteem so the rejections do hit home pretty hard
 
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