"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's a boy!!

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Well my GF gave birth to a 5 pound 2 once boy earlier today, we haven't named him yet. he's too cute!!! but he is like...lol, white. he seems to be pretty healthy and my GF is fine. She's sleep (both of them) so I'm crusing the net.

I'll try to post pics later today
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Congratulations!

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Damn, time flies like crazy. It seems like a few days ago you were posting about her being pregnant.

Anyway, congratulations man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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congratulations for the healthy bundle of joy!
he sure is tiny huh?
 

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yeah he's pretty small. I was 3 and a half pounds when I was born, my little sister was 4 pounds 6 ounces. I guess it's genetic.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Michele said:
the boy is lucky to have a father that can teach him the game.
yeah I'll have hiim betting pick 3's and pick 6's by the time he's in 2nd grade :woo:

He will be the only 2nd grader that knows what a Dosage Index is.
 

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backbreaker said:
yeah I'll have hiim betting pick 3's and pick 6's by the time he's in 2nd grade :woo:

He will be the only 2nd grader that knows what a Dosage Index is.
...lol... that too!

but i was talking about females. but yeah... now he can be rich too!
 

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You know not to change subjects, but that's funny. My dad sat me down VERY early and taught me the ins and outs of horse racing. he knows his ****. but he could never make a living at it,b ecause alot of people don't understand what I mean by it really is a JOB with risk analysis and all. that part he does'nt comprehend, but the horses he knows just as well as I do
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FVCK! I was just doing my laundry thinking to myself: "Backbreaker's lady should be due real soon, wonder if he has names planned?" I would like to give you a big "congratulations!"

You sound like you are ahead of the game compared to those who keep on w/their negative notions about having a child. Most of the time they come off as immature people who couldn't hold their own w/o mommy & daddy. Everyone will have to bite the bullet and grow up eventually.
 

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congrats man, that's awesome!
 

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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