i was cleaning up my place, and i have this shoe box with memories. not just my ex but girl friends that i was fond of, and of other girls i dated, and girls that wrote me love letters,notes,cards, etc. they date back all the way to high school. I'm out of college right now. I wasn't sure if it's good to keep them for memories, or burn them, literally (don't want the wrong things in the trash). I'm guessing most of you guys would say burn them, but i'm thinking of future things, like wouldn't be nice to have memories of the past. isn't that what life is?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
items from the past...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well if the things are signs of your AFC past burn then and never look back. I never look back on who I was pre-DJ except to realize the incredible person I am now.
If they are good things that remind you of successess i suppose keep them.
I voted no though.
If they are good things that remind you of successess i suppose keep them.
I voted no though.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
I voted yes, but then I read your post.
Burn 'em.
Burn 'em.
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All that stuff is a part of my past, and it will never leave me. Every once in a while I'll go through it all, laugh at the cheezy notes that I was given, look at the pics, etc. It all just reminds me of how successful I was.
I have an ex who I was with for a period of 3 years. There were lots and lots of pictures of me and her. I ended up trashing most of them, but kept a few selected pictures. Most of my memories of my time with her have faded, but she'll be part of my past forever. I can't deny that.
I have an ex who I was with for a period of 3 years. There were lots and lots of pictures of me and her. I ended up trashing most of them, but kept a few selected pictures. Most of my memories of my time with her have faded, but she'll be part of my past forever. I can't deny that.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
I used to do that - saving notes/valentines/etc. Then a girlfriend of mine found 'em and it was a little, how should I say this, odd?
It wasn't embarassing, really, just kinda awkward and I could tell she thought I was still hung up on my previous girlfriends (which I wasn't, it was purely for momento's sake).
After that, I had a thought: I don't need pieces of paper to remember someone. I didn't burn them, but they're gone.
It wasn't embarassing, really, just kinda awkward and I could tell she thought I was still hung up on my previous girlfriends (which I wasn't, it was purely for momento's sake).
After that, I had a thought: I don't need pieces of paper to remember someone. I didn't burn them, but they're gone.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Keep them. It's not like by having them you're in a state of perpetual one-itis. I've got a box of stuff with sentimental value from my childhood on up to the current day in my closet - when I'm old and decrepit I plan on bringing it down and taking a look at what things throughout my life have meant enough to me to want to save. As for the people who advocate burning the box, that's childish - anyone who hates the past without good cause is a fool.
California Love
Master Don Juan
When you become an old man, you can look back upon them and smile 
.
.I'm more sentimental than some. I'd keep them, they are yours and they are nice memories. Burning them wont do anything to make you more successful with women, or any happier.
Besides, in 20 years you will find them in your attic and have a nice little moment remembering all the tail you used to have the functional plumbing to nail
Besides, in 20 years you will find them in your attic and have a nice little moment remembering all the tail you used to have the functional plumbing to nail
naoi deag se deag
Senior Don Juan
Dude, tell one of your friends and he can make an awesome opener out of this. Keep them just for that.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.