"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options

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8/21...and i blew it. ****.

now i feel down and stuff. meh.

tomorrow's a better day.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ah, my first post. I've been lurking for awhile, and already on day 3/21, tried once before, managed 7-8 days, I notice the energy increase that's for sure. I'm like a dynamo of labor doing this though, makes it a b**** to go to sleep. Oh well, works off for tomorrow due to a snag on the site, so I can sleep in and get some other stuff done.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
poor guys. I guess this is all about self control.
The only poor me is having a hard time getting to sleep with all the energy this has been giving me, Granted I only ever fooled it 3 times a week at most usually, but that energy is like a drug for me.

Day 1 is always the worst, because you feel lethargic from the relaxation hormones. Those days I'm lucky to get off my ass except to take a piss or cook food.

Day 2 I start to go back to "normal" me mode again, not high on energy, but not exactly slowed down either, then towards the end of the day, the surge kicks in and BOOM, Super Dude.......

Day 3 - Last time, I was on fire, looks like that's where I'm headed to be this time. It'll be scary to see how many errands and junk I get done today.

And I dunno about you guys, but not jerkin' gives me more motivation to actually bang a real woman, thus I start talking more, and eventually get a date/lay/widget/whatever by one means or another if I keep at it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Holland

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5/21
starting to get more sexual dreams (which isn't bad :D as long as I wont climax in sleep)
 

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I remember this feeling the day after lifting wieghts for the first time. Soar yet incredible. Feels great! God, now that I'm back in class, I'm even hornier. I walked in my first class at the last minute and sat down. Then I looked to my right for a moment and saw this HB9 looking at me, but then she looked quickly away...may of been looking my general direction, but she was only two seets to my left. Probably a missed my oppurtunity...professor walked in seconds latter, class started, then ended, and it she was gone by the time I picked up my bookbag. Oh well...there will be more oppurtunities.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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il_duce

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9/21

Like someone earlier mentioned, I've also been having problems falling asleep. Too much energy :yes:
 

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Day 4/21 - today's the start of my morning gym routine.

Tomorrow will be day 5 - a personal best :D
 

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5/21 (opt.1)....Today was good. I'm liking all this testosterone!
 

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starting over once more...
12.5.06: 1/21 days.

i hate sitting around bored ><
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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PumpNightmare

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5/21 and going strong. Feeling the violent urge to destroy something like the last time I hit five days. I might try to hit the bars tonight, but all my frineds are out of town for the summer (at least till B session), so it would be alone. Damn, I hate this...Tally is boring now and I'm high energy and horny.
 

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Just go out alone, man, to keep the habit.
 

PumpNightmare

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It's not a habit when you've only been at once...a strip bar six months ago....but I haven't tried going to the local bars here to sarge. I might suck up the $20 I need for a cab to get back home and try it tonight (no car). This no masturbation thing really is driving me nuts with loads of energy. Plus the gym seems to given me even more, even though I'm still a little soar.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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