"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It seems like everything I do, I do for this girl

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Sorry, for the double post, it seemed more fitting to put this in the HS section


Basically the setting is freshman year: I like girl A, girl A likes me back, I'm too awkward to make a move, girl A eventually gives up and we enter the awkward zone - where we avoid eye contact, even though we're both into each other (or at least I was) we'd meet eyes and then look away. I still end up thinking about her a lot.

Sophmore year: More of the same, for a brief moment we talked and then things got awkward and we went back to the awkward zone. She got a boyfriend halfway through and I pretended I didn't care about her. All this time, I end up still thinking about her.

Junior year: More of the same, we ended up talking for a bit at the beginning but we eventually went back to our awkward routine. It SUCKED. She eventually got tired of waiting for me to make a move and got a new boyfriend, but she still looked at me and looked away when i made eye contact. Halfway through Junior year something clicked and I started becoming a don juan and breaking my old habits.

Senior year: Came back completely changed from junior year, fresh cut nice clothes confident smile and LOTS of girls are beginning to notice me. She's still with her old boyfriend, but we've been talking in class now and I'm not sure if I'm really still attracted to her anymore (I can pull much hotter girls than her now), but there's something about her that I can't shake. She's been eyeing the hell out of me and I can see it in my peripherals, I've even returned the stare and smiled back at her and she laughs at all of my jokes in class, even when they're not that funny. Like, just the idea of getting her appeals so much to me, despite the fact that while although she's hot, I can get hotter. Its almost as my conjured perception of her is more appealing to me than the actual her.

It's gotten to the point where I'm still trying to impress her, to where I even contemplated showing up at a party with this really hot girl just to impress her and get her to like me. It sounds retarded and you're all probably laughing at me, but is this like oneitis to the most extreme case in the world?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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saturos

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Not really anything strange. It looks to me like you really like her.

So the question you want to ask yourself is this:
Do i want a loving relationship or do i want a relationship with a hot girl?

Because you know that the relationship will not last, no matter how great it seems in the near future. Its about what you want to do. Its high school, so have fun.
 
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It's not too extreme, but as Saturos said, it sounds like you really like her.

What is the situation with the current boyfriend?
If she is really into him, don't waste your time and move on (at least for now).

Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy
 

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Relationship-Buddy said:
It's not too extreme, but as Saturos said, it sounds like you really like her.

What is the situation with the current boyfriend?
If she is really into him, don't waste your time and move on (at least for now).

Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy
Pretty much that.
 
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