Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
for them it was easy.. even the quazimoto looking guys get laid who are unemployed.Bible_Belt said:It really is hard to get laid
Then how did the world population just hit 7 billion?
Great mindset to have floyd.....and no its not hard to get laid....plenty of guys with attractive gfs and wives are regularly f*cking them.floydb25 said:I like what someone else said about being too outcome dependant. You can't go in with the mindset of getting laid, and making it your goal. Just have fun with NO expectations. You have to not care. If you get rejected - don't care. If you don't get laid - don't care.
People who care too much about the outcome need to ask themselves why. Why is it so important to be liked by everyone? It's not. What are you trying to prove, and to whom? Why do you get depressed over it? If you think about it, its really not that important. Just like with making friends - you don't go out expecting to make friends. It just happens. Stop making dating and getting laid so important - because it isn't. There's really nothing special about it. Don't make it out to be some major feat, and place it on a pedestal. You don't need everyone to like you or find you attractive; their approval doesn't determine your worth. Nor does getting laid or not.
The more you want something, and the more you push for it - the higher chances are that you won't get it. You put too much pressure on yourself, and up disappointed when it doesn't happen - because you have expectations. Then you feel depressed, start whining, blah blah. The girl will also probably sense your desperation, and run away.
I remember one time I went to the club with a friend. Based on what he heard of the place - he EXPECTED to get laid. It was his number goal. I just went out there to dance and have fun. I got a nice hottie, and he got nothing. And boy, was he PISSED. All because he cared and tried and expected too much. I just went there to dance. Didn't care either way, but ended up happy.
This applies to dating in general. Stop pushing so hard, and expecting things to happen. Just chill out, have fun, and they WILL.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Felt the sting from over hereBible_Belt said:It really is hard to get laid
Then how did the world population just hit 7 billion?