Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yep. Protestors in my Southern city have all been peaceful.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
These protests and Civil Right groups doing all this stuff, they do not understand that they are simply tools of a greater, more nefarious cause, called "Subversion" which is an attempt by our enemies to destroy us. Here is a talk on Subversion; when you listen to what happens, he describes our current political all the way back then, its actually scary.
That's not the whole story, but that's definitely part of what's going on.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yup it also only happens in big feminist cities run by pansies that institute strict gun control most of the time.
Unfortunately I think you are right about the downfall. It’s happening. But as I said above, the good news is that you have only seen one side causing the downfall. You haven’t seen the other side fighting back. The other side being the biker gangs, rednecks, small town business owners, and other people with guns. Lots of them! These folks are hoping the police and maybe National Guard will be given what they need to get things under control. These guys don’t want to have to step in too much. But when the day comes that it is so out of control that these guys have to step in in full, it’s going to be bloody and over quickly. And Power will be handed back to the police when things are under control. Then all those empty refrigeration trucks they put on TV and told us that they were for Covid deaths, I hope they haven’t gone to far with those trucks because they are going to be some bodies to put in them. They won’t be people who have died from Covid. They will be people who have eaten lead from the guns of Americans who have finally had enough.
There are cops doing trash, some are corrupt, some are incompetent, some are megalomaniacs. But a lot of this cop hate is based on a fictional narrative that's being sold by various groups of people who have something to gain. A lot of the problem isn't with cops doing trash, but with people reacting (badly) to a narrative that is being presented to them. That's not to say there isn't a problem, but a lot of the examples we are given are really stretched to fit that narrative.
Absolutely every video of police shooting out there shows the same thing
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I disagree, not all the videos are the same, there are a wide variety of videos available. But most of them seem to involve a man with a long criminal history fighting with the police (not just resisting arrest) and making some sort of questionable move that results in them getting shot. Or in some cases, an unfortunate turn of events brought on at least in part by overuse of a drug.
You haven't seen a lot of videos then or have been shown the wrong ones.
So to clarify:
This a wretched OP. Are you suggesting the Jews in 1935 should not have resisted? Please clarify.
This is the most peculiar narrative. Protestors of police brutality have no motive nor the desire to caravan out to rural America. It’s a local community issue that ironically features non-resident police officers and outside agitators coming in.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.