Looking back at messages over the last two years with the ex being over a month out with NC I was able to see with a different perspective all the BS drama and unnecessary stress I put up with. Sure all couples have fights but the way I allowed such treachery to go on is just pathetic. I even went back here on SS and found a post I made complaining how my ex cancelled the entire nights plans on me because I was gonna hit the gym on the way to her house on a Friday, even being there on time. She cancelled on me when I was on my way there (its a 35ish min drive) and did not talk to me the entire night Friday or or next day until 5ish sending me a smart ass message...Jesus Lord God who treats the one they love like this and WHY did I put up with it? I was never like this before my dad passed. Dont get me wrong I didnt sulk and act like a *****, I always fought back, hence always fighting but what the F? who takes a great relationship and just starts doing things like this as she did? We planned for me to be there at 8, I would have been there on time if not early but since I hit the gym I get cancelled and punished for days....? she didnt want me going to the gym... got damn what a horror of a person. **** like this all the time. what the F did I do? i wasnt at a bar or talking to girls, got damn i box, hit the gym, shoot pool in my basement with my son, walk my dog yet i was punished all the time for ****....wtf
It has finally become clear to me that I was so desperate for a life companion that I put up with being humiliated, yelled and screamed at, emasculated, embarrassed in public, verbally and emotionally abused for nearly 2 years. I just stuck it out and kept trying, what the Fuchik is wrong with me? Why on God's earth would I allow someone to treat me or a relationship with me like this?
I remember telling her many times that I have dated many many girls and never had anyone have trouble about things like this.....she just took a loving relationship and ruined it, destroyed it over nothing.
Well long story short, I became a pathetic pos allowing someone to treat me so terribly because I loved her and wanted her to change and improve and things work out so I could have a LIFE companion. that is how pathetic I became and am.
I am a tough guy in and out, have dealt with a lot over this life and put it all on my back and carried it all, lots of family as well as they couldn't endure a tough run we have had, I take care of my family.
But, I became pathetic to be treated this way and MORE pathetic to have wanted a life partner so bad I allowed it.
I raised my kid by myself, being a broken family you yearn so badly to fulfill that void that is like a constant knife in your soul, and that was my burden, I am 39 and that void remains, even over the last 3 years that void was there and remains, I am almost 40, 2/3 of my life is over ( my dad gone at 62 and his dad at 52) and this has been it, 18 years of raising a kid alone a broken family and it will never change.
I am as disappointed in women today as I am in allowing myself to be pathetic being treated as I was. Even though the girl has bpd it does not excuse me from not walking away.
What a sick feeling to know deep down you aren't deserving of something you are genetically built to yearn for. it is ****kkig bull****.
What I would give to never care again...to remove this programming being set up to fail...
it is a truly sick feeling
It has finally become clear to me that I was so desperate for a life companion that I put up with being humiliated, yelled and screamed at, emasculated, embarrassed in public, verbally and emotionally abused for nearly 2 years. I just stuck it out and kept trying, what the Fuchik is wrong with me? Why on God's earth would I allow someone to treat me or a relationship with me like this?
I remember telling her many times that I have dated many many girls and never had anyone have trouble about things like this.....she just took a loving relationship and ruined it, destroyed it over nothing.
Well long story short, I became a pathetic pos allowing someone to treat me so terribly because I loved her and wanted her to change and improve and things work out so I could have a LIFE companion. that is how pathetic I became and am.
I am a tough guy in and out, have dealt with a lot over this life and put it all on my back and carried it all, lots of family as well as they couldn't endure a tough run we have had, I take care of my family.
But, I became pathetic to be treated this way and MORE pathetic to have wanted a life partner so bad I allowed it.
I raised my kid by myself, being a broken family you yearn so badly to fulfill that void that is like a constant knife in your soul, and that was my burden, I am 39 and that void remains, even over the last 3 years that void was there and remains, I am almost 40, 2/3 of my life is over ( my dad gone at 62 and his dad at 52) and this has been it, 18 years of raising a kid alone a broken family and it will never change.
I am as disappointed in women today as I am in allowing myself to be pathetic being treated as I was. Even though the girl has bpd it does not excuse me from not walking away.
What a sick feeling to know deep down you aren't deserving of something you are genetically built to yearn for. it is ****kkig bull****.
What I would give to never care again...to remove this programming being set up to fail...
it is a truly sick feeling