"It gets better as you get older"

[Korrupt]

Ehhhh I've heard this all over the place and I'm not sure I agree.

I'm technically a better "catch" now that I'm out of school and have a great job title (the money isn't fantastic, but they don't know that), and to be honest I feel like it's either worse, or at best the same.

Maybe it's the women? I've always said dating gets worse every year. I've tried every kind of "game" you can think of at this point. It doesn't matter--if she likes you she'll take to just about whatever you're doing, and if she doesn't it literally doesn't matter what you do, you'll get nothing.

90+% of the numbers I get end up ignoring me. Just as an example, I got one over the weekend and got a "hi", then when I asked how her weekend had been--no response. Once again, that's just a single example--this happens constantly. Sometimes I'll admit I get stupid and blow myself out, but other times, like the above, it's nonsensical.

Anyways, I don't really think dating gets easier as you get older, unless you have a severe personality change, area change, physical attractiveness change, etc. If you're the same person in the same place, being older and having more money don't really matter.

 

[marmel75]

It absolutely gets better as you get older. No matter how good you think your job is now, you likely will have a better one in 10-15 years. You will have much more experience with women, you will have learned or at least should have learned what works and what doesn't to the point you can turn meeting and banging women into a cookie cutter experience.

And last but not least, you be much improved in the sack.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I believe that the Harder you WORK early on as a teen boy, the earlier the better off you will be. That was my failure. I came from a private school (elitist) which looked down on blue collar to hard labor; therefore, I never got my hands dirty, except in "sports." So, I didn't care to READ much nor did I Labor much, so basically as a teenager even through to my mid-20s, I thought that I was just better than everybody else having done Nothing. You have to WORK hard early on, whether it be Reading (really not work, but to some younguns it is - it was to me, but not now) or Hard blue collar labor. Then you will appeal to young women in your age group, especially if you are creating income streams that will run in perpetuity early on. Because I started late, I still attract younger gals, but at least I STARTED. A good 50% of dudes Never even Start at setting themselves up. There are many people Way richer than I am, and I don't know how they do it. It could be a facade for some though. When I see that a couple is retiring at the age of 42, I think my God that's impossible for me, I am far behind. I've squandered much. Being able to vacation bigtime lushly is quite a benefit to have at my age, but others who are well ahead of me financially can do it more and not every 5 years like I am bound to. It must be nice. I am leery of the next big crash though, that it will be the final nail in the coffin of this economy. I think what I should have bought during 2009 or 2010, when I bought low in some things. I think how I should have bought this and that, but I was afraid like everyone else. We may not get another chance to buy low. That's what's scary.

 

[skinnyguy]

This is partially true. I had way more access to women when I was 21 because I was in college. And the thing is money did not matter. The girls just wanted to have fun and date.

Now the game is only favoring very loaded buff guys. I make decent money but females don't give a **** unless you're driving a Maserati then they will date you cause of your money. As women get older, they get pickier. So the guys with highest SMV get 90% of the women. I get dates but it is wayyyyyyy harder now. In college I would just flirt with girls at parties and they would not **** test me cause I went to the same school. And we had mutual friends. As an adult you're just some random c0ck and have to sift through online dating profiles, bars, meetups etc. not to mention that as you get older the women get a lot fatter!!!!

The best type of women in the US are college women and you really only meet them when you are in college. Single moms in their 30's are not appealing, and neither are divorced women who hate men.

 

[Poon King]

It gets better with age for many reasons, but the most obvious one is you have MORE options because women generally date UP in age. The older you yet, the more women will be younger than you. This translates to more options.

At the same time, nothing will change the fact that women find certain things unattractive. Things like desperation, excessive thirst, submissiveness, lack of sexual confidence and being a faggot in general. A faggot beta is a faggot beta whether he is 20 years old or 90 years old.

 

[guru1000]

Hell yeah. As Tenacity alleges that I proclaim, I drop more dimes than a cash register. I didn't get azz like this in my 20s or even 30s in such deep quality and quantity. I'm in my 40s.

Work hard. Fail hard. Improve every day. You will get better.

 

[zekko]

I'm technically a better "catch" now that I'm out of school and have a great job title (the money isn't fantastic, but they don't know that), and to be honest I feel like it's either worse, or at best the same.

If you're just out of school, you're still just a newbie in the work force. Like Marmel says, however you're doing now, you'll most likely be doing better in 10-15 years. That's just your job, though. As each year goes by, your independence and experience with standing on your own two feet will increase, and that's what makes you attractive: Being a self sufficient, successful man.

I definitely think dating gets easier as you get older. But that's just generally speaking, I suppose it can't be true for everyone. Some people probably peak in high school, or in college.

I mean most of us started out having marginal success at best, and got better as we got older. We learned what pitfalls were there, why they existed, and how to avoid them. Maybe if you grew up in high school with all sorts of great SoSuave advice, you were able to clean up with the ladies, after all everyone was single. In that case, maybe it would be hard to surpass your early success. I don't think that's most of us though.

 

[Trump]

Ehhhh I've heard this all over the place and I'm not sure I agree.

I'm technically a better "catch" now that I'm out of school and have a great job title (the money isn't fantastic, but they don't know that), and to be honest I feel like it's either worse, or at best the same.

Being out of school and having a great job has nothing to do with "being a good catch", its about yourself. There are guys out there who are not in school and have an OK job, still have sex with alot of good looking girls.

This is where guys confuse the issues. They think just because they do what society tells them to do, listen to teachers, get good grades, go to college, graduate on deans' list, get a well paying job, girls automatically want to have sex with them. Nothing could be further from the truth. One has nothing to do with the other.

Maybe it's the women? I've always said dating gets worse every year. I've tried every kind of "game" you can think of at this point. It doesn't matter--if she likes you she'll take to just about whatever you're doing, and if she doesn't it literally doesn't matter what you do, you'll get nothing.

LOL. No bro its not the women, it's you. You must be doing something fundamentally wrong that they get turned off by you. Your dress, your height, your hair, your car, your social skills, your nervousness, etc, etc, etc.

90+% of the numbers I get end up ignoring me. Just as an example, I got one over the weekend and got a "hi", then when I asked how her weekend had been--no response. Once again, that's just a single example--this happens constantly. Sometimes I'll admit I get stupid and blow myself out, but other times, like the above, it's nonsensical.

Why are you texting a girl asking how her weekend was? Do you want to have sex with her or are you looking for a friend? The only reason you should be texting is set up a time and place so the night leads to sex.

Anyways, I don't really think dating gets easier as you get older, unless you have a severe personality change, area change, physical attractiveness change, etc. If you're the same person in the same place, being older and having more money don't really matter.

Bro "easier as you get older" does not mean you turn 30 something and the girls faint at your presence or want to rip your clothes when they see you. It means you are more relaxed, not outcome dependent, show them a good time, have fun with them, don't take them too seriously, and have more life experience that you can handle yourself with them.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Seems better, social confidence and attractiveness. The down side is that erections for me are a bit more unreliable. There are work arounds.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Seems better, social confidence and attractiveness. The down side is that erections for me are a bit more unreliable. There are work arounds.

As we get older we have more on our minds and are more organized, focused, but stressed. When you where younger you where "in the moment" and weren't as organized. I've thought about this too. But since I was young I had a practice of getting head before sex, and I still like that today and it works.

 

[BeTheChange]

Other than what the posters above have said, I believe that for the older we get the less demystified sex becomes and perhaps the less valuable. As you get older the opportunity cost of chasing random poon increases since you have much less available time than when you were say, in college.

I have turned down dates with girls I would have jumped on five years ago because taking care of business comes first. I think these things create an environment where pvssy is not as heavily prioritised and so you perhaps naturally possesses an aura of not caring as much about that V between their legs.

 

[Desdinova]

90+% of the numbers I get end up ignoring me. Just as an example, I got one over the weekend and got a "hi", then when I asked how her weekend had been--no response. Once again, that's just a single example--this happens constantly.

I found that as I get older, the more ineffective cold approaches get. You need to get out in a social setting and use that to work women into your life. Once you have a social circle or you can command a social setting, approaching women becomes easier and getting a date is simple. Some women will just fall into your lap.

Women are influenced by social perception. The social perception of a 40 year old dude approaching a 20 year old female at the mall will dictate him as being "creepy". However, if the 40 year old dude is an extremely interesting person in a social circle consisting of people in their early 20s, that 20 years old is going to be fantasizing about him asking her out.

You need to put yourself in an ideal social setting to influence a woman's perception of you.

 

[The Duke]

In my high school years I had girls approach/persue me. Never did I go after them. I wasn't all that interested in girls back then and thats probably why they tried so hard! I drove a nice car, lived in the "rich" neighborhood of a small town, and had social status in the community because of my dad's occupation. I'm sure this played a part in making things very easy for me.

During my 30's I was just getting out of a 14yr relationship living in a major metro area known for lots of attractive women. I had a ton to learn and experienced lots of failure but I kept improving myself and got better and better girls(looks, careers, etc). It wasn't easy and I had to work at it. I was on multiple dating sites and going out 3 nights a week approaching women and partying. I definitely rose to the top, went thru tons of girls mostly HB7's and 8's, but it was my entire life focus for about 5yrs. You get what you put into it!

Nowday's as I'm in my 40's, I do think my seduction skills have gotten better and I can easily identify girls that aren't worth pursuing. Girls want to drop their panties faster than ever before. I am highly confident, relaxed, know what to say and what not to say, and don't really care what happens, very good at leading a woman, etc. I've been on over a 100 first dates so you get pretty good at flipping the attraction switches.
I'm also more selective so a "hot & fun" girl is no longer good enough for me and personality is more of a factor than ever before. I no longer have the fire inside me to go after HB9's as I know most of them are broken inside(as much as I hate to admit this).

I do believe the dating climate has changed. Women have more options than ever and this leads to their indecisiveness. People's morals/values have deteriorated. Women are also making more money, have better jobs, and its socially acceptable for them to be "independent". I see lots more of the "i don't need a guy" mentality in women. The pressure to marry and have kids is not what it used to be 20+years ago. Women have become more like men in many aspects, although they still want to lock guys into long term relationships once they find one they highly desire.

So for me some, my improved skills have made things easier but the dating climate has deteriorated for a net gain of nothing! Its still no easier finding the right one that has the right mix of what you are looking for. Women do get pickier the older they get, but it does seem easier to get younger women the older I get. I offer something guys 7-10yrs younger than me don't.

 

[Bingo-Player]

experience is gold with women

in just 4 years I feel I have come on easily 40 years

I know what to say and when to say it because I have so much experience of what works and what doesn't

if your still having the same problems you were having as a teenager then you haven't been learning

 

[playa99]

In my mid - late teens, my market was pretty much exclusively women my own age.

Now at 24 I get interest off women at pretty much all ages. I put that predominantly down to a higher level of confidence.

 

[nismo-4]

From what I noticed, that's part truth. You just wise up to the game, but are women choosing you?

Sure, if you've been working on your looks and money, then yeah, it gets better. How will dating look in 2026? Lots more jaded women and lots of online platforms for attention seeking I'm sure.

All boils down to your looks, money (career), and development to the opposite sex. You can't just wait till you turn 40 and women will drop at the drop of a hat a week later.

 

[marmel75]

From what I noticed, that's part truth. You just wise up to the game, but are women choosing you?

Sure, if you've been working on your looks and money, then yeah, it gets better. How will dating look in 2026? Lots more jaded women and lots of online platforms for attention seeking I'm sure.

All boils down to your looks, money (career), and development to the opposite sex. You can't just wait till you turn 40 and women will drop at the drop of a hat a week later.

That part is obvious, but its like that in pretty much any aspect of life...you can't just go to the gym weighing 300 lbs and think you are going to be a ripped 180 lb dude the following month...

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

They say that because men peak later than women. Plus, when women get old, they get old FAST. They don't gradually look older, it's a sudden change (at least in my opinion anyway). Plus, men can always take care of themselves. "I can do anything a man can do and better!" I apologize to the women on here, but that feminist quote is bullsh!t. There are very few things a female can out-perform her male counterparts in. And because of this, men can almost always have value throughout their life and if we constantly improve ourselves, we can always raise our value.

 

[Silko]

since my late 30 I get lot more attraction of women, and especially women below 26.

No clue why this is, the younger once.

But I'm quite sure making your own living, having an own business, in short being independent attracts.
Just dont forget to be less independent in a relationship .. if it is an option

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm making more $ at 40 than before. But women don't know that. They just see the bald spot, give their mandatory eye roll and move on lol.

For 40+ women in my dance class, yes, I could definitely date some of them. But younger than that and/or outside such defined social circle, I'm not on the map.

I think Zekko once said that some men peak earlier. I agree with that. I peaked at about 35. Less money then but more looks and more hair.

I'm not complaining. Just an honest observation.