"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
It does NOT help you improve YOURSELF to whine about girls
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Generalizations based on specific criteria are very valid. You're acting like people here contantly judge ALL the women in the world. This is not true, not even remotely. What I see here are generalizations of certain types of women based on particular types of behvaiour patterns. These do tend to be quite accurate, as many people in different situations can attest to the similarities they have encountered. Since we as men have more experience dealing with women on the romantic level, we have a much more broad experience than you would and would be able to see why some of these geenralizations are valid.
In short, you're over reacting. You're blowing a small problem into a bigger one.
TDOT
Don Juan
DJs don't care, they next.
Wow thats pretty good, don't you agree? In fact I'll make that my new quote in my signature!
Sidenote: Yes I realize that I just complimented myself. It is OK for a DJ to do that.
OK I'm going off on a tangent here sorry.
Attention wh0res tend to compliment themselves.
I also figured out why many of them are bisexual, its because they want to get as much attention as possible. If they can't get it from guys then they go to girls. Interesting though that they are still not real friends with their lesbians partners.
Anyway never let any woman compliment herself in front of you.
Any woman that does that shows that she has low self esteem and respect for herself.
Its OK for you to do it though. The more the DJ compliments himself in front of a woman he is training her to give him compliments. After complimenting yourself say: "don't you agree?"
Your post is a valid post and I respect what you've said here. You shouldn't try to answer word for word or go toe to toe with these guys.
Just say what you have to say and leave it alone. This site has a reputation for it's incredible 3 day debates and flame wars.
Telling me not to go "toe to toe" with anyone who gets snarky with me is like telling a leopard not to have spots. I was a competitive debater and public speaker in school. I aced an argumentative writing course I took with little effort. It comes to me naturally and is in my blood. Eventually those who try to provoke me will figure out it's an act of futility to do so.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.