"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Isolating for ph.number - chickened

Huffman

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Bear with me, I blew a perfectly good chance today :)(), but I also got a question.

I'm attending a Salsa class and there's alot of hot girls in there. I'm actually getting good chemistry with several of them, but one even more than usual. Already during dancing I thought to myself, OK, I'm DEFINITELY going to get the number at the end of class (and not chicken out this time)!

What happened, we switched partners a couple of times and by the end of class I wasn't with her, so I went to ask her as she was leaving. Thing is, she was leaving with another girl, and I more or less froze... I thought "oh **** should I ask her with the friend around" and WHAM they were gone.

**** THAT WAS SO STUPID!
Anyway, how would you go about it? I should have just asked anyway, since she was into me (and the friend was as well). Or should I rather have said something like "can I borrow her for a sec", take her to the side and then ask? How would you have handled it?

I actually intended to get a new number every dance class (but not asking in front of everyone so it doesn't look desperate, and they don't feel cheap etc). I better get some next week, argh!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Huffman

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P.S. I should add that I'm handling the dancing quite well. Once I've started dancing it's BOOM SEDUCTION MODE. Everything is smooth, a little talk, dancing closer... I'm getting all the signals... But at the end of session WHAM everybody runs away and BOOM missed chance. Still hesitating too much, dunno why :(
 

Huffman

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Got my sh!t together and took some numbers. Last second save ;)

P.S. if you are reading this, would you ask for a number in front of her friends (if they're friendly)?
 

joe henny

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No I wouldnt if I'm going to see her friends in class too because then they will all see you getting numbers like crazy and it will be obvious
 
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