ISO Someone Who Dates OnLine

[Disco]

Ok I've never done the Internet dating thing primarily b/c I've never needed to and I think it enables someone to become something they are not. I'm charasmatic, funny and spontaneous in person so I've always felt like I'm better face to face.

I browsed a site the other day at work basically laughing at some of the things people said, then I see this really cute girl with something interesting her words that caught my eye. I make money so I paid and sent her an email. She responed b/c I made it pretty funny by telling her other things I could have done for 20 bucks and how she's already in the hole. She lives in my town but is currently out of town for the next two weeks.

We have im'd a couple of times and exchanged emails a few times over the last two weeks. Nothing too much, light talk and I seem to make her laugh. She sent me like 23 photos and I've only provided 2. OK, now I haven't heard from her in a few days, the last time was that she appologized for not having the time to talk to me b/c of her job...even though I never mentioned wanting to talk to her.

What I'm realizing here is that the Internet can be just like real life with the games. The whole image of "busy" seems to work on here too. I also realize that there is a book of "rules for internet dating". Can someone with some experience on this thing concur?

 

[Viking25]

Interenet dating involves even more games ! Dude you got no idea!
Get the girl out on a real date ASAP. Ask her for her phone number,call her and make plans. You sounds like you'll do better in real life dating.

 

[NRM]

Viking is right, get her number, make the date. Just do it the same as you would do in a bar or anywhere else. Don't chit-chat too much online because it tends to end up problematic in the end because when you trade too much information online, it is harder to talk to that person in real life.

 

[DankNuggs]

Internet dating is for social degenerates....

 

[Disco]

Right, coming from a guy who has a kb reference in his handle. Why don't you make it DankNuggets420 and show us your pothead stardom.


Anyway, I agree that's it's different and I won't do it anymore, but I could have a piece on the line. I did send her an email asking for her number, but this is how I did it. I'm sure she'll laugh.

Me: I noticed you typing on your p.c. from across the room, You have supernatural typing skills.
You: Thank you, I've been typing for years..runs on my dad's side of the family.
Me: Well I'd like to get your number so we can talk about the secrets of typing sometime.
You: Sure, I'd like that a lot, my number is ?????

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you DJs had true skills, you would realize that the Internet is nothing but a medium, it's no different than the telephone, it's a tool.

With the right skills (the ability to qualify), you can pull women from the net as easily as in real life and at times, even easier. How? The Net is full of AFCs that have no clue to what they are doing. A DJ with game will stick out and will be of interest to more than 50% of the women online.

The trick is your qualifying skills to weed out the flakes. The ones who can't get discouraged and say that the Net is for AFCs, ironic huh? A DJ should be able to make any situation they are in work to their advantage. That's why I say the Net isn't as hard as everyone says.

Your competition is mostly AFCs who are doing the wrong things over and over or they are AFCs who couldn't get any play and just give up. With those types of guys as your competition, why not pick up women from online as you do in a coffee shop, a bus stop or at the gas pump. You guys do sarge what ever the situation, right?

 

[Disco]

Exactly, that's why I'm doing this. This chick is throwing a test out there to see if I'll be rude to her for her not writing back or talking even though it's so obvious her interest is high. I won't fall for the trap, got no time for it. I can see however though how most guys I know wouldn't have the patinece for it.

 

[tactic]

Oh my lord. Please don't tell me you guys are "going out" online. PLEASE.

And also, don't try to start any **** with me because I'm saying this... Dating someone online is retarded...however, getting into the zone where you are planning to call or meet her personally, that is a good idea.

 

[Disco]

Of course I'm putting it on the line. I asked for the number today and if no number, no more email. It would be absurd to date someon on line.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
If you DJs had true skills, you would realize that the Internet is nothing but a medium, it's no different than the telephone, it's a tool.

With the right skills (the ability to qualify), you can pull women from the net as easily as in real life and at times, even easier. How? The Net is full of AFCs that have no clue to what they are doing. A DJ with game will stick out and will be of interest to more than 50% of the women online.

This much is true...you CAN be an Internet Pimp (I am ), but you can't have sex with a router.

Eventually you'll have to meet her. If you don't have the real-life social skills, meaning being able to interact in REAL-TIME without having that extra 10-20 seconds of being able to think of a clever chat response to everything, then you're gonna fall apart. And a lack of confidence is easier to hide on the Internet. She can't see when you send a message on AIM or E-mail that you're nervous and waiting to see how she responds. But in real life...you'd better believe she can smell your fear.

You can use it as a practice ground, get used to feeling confident talking to women and developing the conversational skills with the cushion of a delay. But if all you do is net-flirt and start thinking you're the mack-daddy, you're in for a rude awakening.

 

[Viking25]

She may not give you the number if you just ask for it in e-mail. The trick I use is this: while you chatting late night,tell her that your eyes are tired from the screen then :" Can I just call you on the phone so we can still talk tonight? I really like to hear your voice" Works like magic for me...and I am a fukking expert on online dating....unfortunatly.

 

[tactic]

Originally posted by Disco
Of course I'm putting it on the line. I asked for the number today and if no number, no more email. It would be absurd to date someon on line.

good, bro...i was about to say...one of my fustrated days today

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Disco
Of course I'm putting it on the line. I asked for the number today and if no number, no more email. It would be absurd to date someon on line.

It's as simple as that (although I'd set up a meeting and bypass the telephone number all together). What is so difficult to understand? Who would waste time dealing with someone who you'd have to email back and forth for days at a time. Some guys have no clue. Like Disco said, no contact, no more email.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by squirrels
This much is true...you CAN be an Internet Pimp (I am ), but you can't have sex with a router.

Eventually you'll have to meet her.

Wait, wait, wait.... Are you saying that these fools are just macking online without meeting these women???!!! What a fvcking waste of time! No wonder they are AFCs!

 

[tactic]

Your friend is an ass.

 

[Disco]

haha, i asked her for her number on Friday. no reply from her, I think it's clear that she is just a chick using the net to get an ego massage. oh well let her have the afc weeklings.

 

[Disco]

Update, she did send me her number and let me know that she thinks that I'm hillarious. Well I got news for her, the email thing is actually inhibiting my sense of humor. She said her phone is fuked until Wednesday, that's kind of odd though. I probably wouldn't call her until she's not expecting it anyway. Then I'll bust it open with a "damn i was hoping you were a man" and then laugh.