Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Isn't It Time for Sosuave.net to Upgrade?

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I hope this isn't taken in the wrong way by the site administrators or the moderators, but why haven't this site been upgrade. One others boards I frequent, you can put up avatars, post videos or pictures directly to the site, and you click an option on whether or you agree or disagree with a post. Whether or not the post made you laugh, you though post was the "greatest of all time, or you though the post was straight up wack. I feel that adding this few things, especially the ability to upload pictures and videos to the site would improve the site and make it more interactive. Or are these upgrades cost prohibitive.

Also, considering that most of the members of this site is adult males, why is profanity censored?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Peaks&Valleys

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why is profanity censored?
I've always wondered this. What's the point in making us type fvck and $hit and A$$ and B!tch?

Upgrades would be cool. I'm not on any other sites but I like the simplicity of this one, not too much other $hit going on. It's why craigslist is so successful, easy, simple, not 1000 ads everywhere distracting you.
 

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If it aint broke, dont fix it!

Honestly the simplicity of this forum works and keeps it clutter-free. Avatars can get ridiculous, same with photos and videos. It would be 10x the moderating work. SoSuave is about content, not web garbage.

I would actually support a lifting of the profanity ban. We use it anyway.
 

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Keep the profanity ban, I like to see variations of secks.

If you need to ban something, it has to be colored fonts.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stagger Lee

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Leave everything as it is except lift the profanity ban and the 10 post ban, and it would be perfect.:yes:
 

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Sosuave is built to harvest email addresses to sell to dating gurus peddling their wares. Once your email is in the system, you're not worth that much any more. That's why we have a bare-bones vbulletin forum without bandwidth sucking features like embedded images and videos. I have always said that the ten-post limitation is a related issue. The people who have long discussions with each other are not the ones paying the bills. These are business decisions; I understand.
 

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The 10 post ban has it's reasons, I would have to agree with them. I feel it would better if they changed it from a post limit to a thread limit. That way if someone's fully involved in a discussion on a particular thread, they wouldn't have to worry about being cut off.

While we're at it, why not some kind of flagging system to alert the MODs of trolls, it doesn't seem to be too out of hand but they're still out there....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Bible_Belt said:
The flagging system is the little red triangle to the left of every post.
Oh yeah huh....lol
 

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I'm with everyone else who says don't change it, but uncensor profanity.

I like the simplicity here, and think that focusing more on the text itself is more conducive to discussion.

Actually, it would be nice to embed pics and vids directly in posts.

But yeah, agree/disagree buttons kinda sound lame, like facebook almost
 

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I think it's time for a new background. This blue should be replaced with a darker color.
 

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TheStig said:
I'm with everyone else who says don't change it, but uncensor profanity.

I like the simplicity here, and think that focusing more on the text itself is more conducive to discussion.

Actually, it would be nice to embed pics and vids directly in posts.

But yeah, agree/disagree buttons kinda sound lame, like facebook almost
Agreed, it is refreshing to see a no-pictures forum. I just looked at bodybuilding.com, and you see a lot of guys posting ridiculous gifs instead of talking. I don't want to see the pictures people would put up here.

But yes, uncensor. People write these words anyway. If there was a ban on circumventing the filter it would make more sense, but now it doesn't. Might as well remove the filter and not make it look like we are ashamed of using certain words.

Besides, it is annoying to see people post "**** that *****, she's such a ****!"

On the other hand, if a guy won't even take the time to circumvent the filter, that is a good way to gauge his general mental level.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I've always wondered this. What's the point in making us type fvck and $hit and A$$ and B!tch?

Upgrades would be cool. I'm not on any other sites but I like the simplicity of this one, not too much other $hit going on. It's why craigslist is so successful, easy, simple, not 1000 ads everywhere distracting you.
Wolfgang D said:
But yes, uncensor. People write these words anyway. If there was a ban on circumventing the filter it would make more sense, but now it doesn't. Might as well remove the filter and not make it look like we are ashamed of using certain words.

Besides, it is annoying to see people post "**** that *****, she's such a ****!"
samspade said:
As for the banning of profanity, it is a little overboard. I can see not wanting dialogue to turn into cussing matches. But you can't even type Charles D!ckens' name on here. (I'm serious.)
Not to be a d!ck and beat on a dead horse, but y'all REALLY need to do something about the profanity filter. Seriously, in post I just made, I quoted Rosebudd (one of the pimps interviewed in American Pimp) Anyway, he wrote his autobiography which he penned under his birth name. In order to properly cite the quote and just in case somebody might want to purchase the book, I included Rosebudd's given name which is John ****son. Just as what has happened here Rosebudd's entire surname was censored out, so I had to go back and place an asterisk in place of the "i,".

I understand the rationale of not wanting discussions to degenerate into low brow profanity laden shouting matches, but at the end of the day, this mainly frequented by adult males who are in pursuit of trying to score chicks. Plus the filter is a little ridiculous when guys are circumventing it anyway. Not being able to type a person's name or w*manese is doing a little too much.
 
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