Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Poonani Maker said:
Women, will use this tactic on me(or it could just be her genuine change in treatment of me or opinion of me). Just this last weekend a chick who's been chasing me a little for about a month, I caught her looking at me a few times Sunday, and I didn't smile or waves I just acted nonchalant. Well, after that she was flirting with EVERY guy besides me (kino involved, joking around). I guess she doesn't want me anymore. She's tired of waiting, and she's Way younger. Those younger ones are harder to deal with because they can write you off in a heartbeat on some whimsical thought of you, even though you've attracted her from the start repeatedly, over and over, she's been attracted IOIs etc. Now, she's written me off, I think, bc I'm not being touchy with her I guess or aggressive, but I don't care. There are others, but she is definitely the type I am looking for to make a baby.Reluctant_Seducer said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.