You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Cheapest date I ever had, I spent $2. We met at a coffee shop. She paid for her coffee. We walked around for a bit. I suggested a movie but she said we should go back to my place instead.Another good argument to escalate as soon as possible to gauge the real interest of the girl, instead of wasting too much money on dating (first ones should be cheap though, looking back quite regret a couple of them though)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ahhhhh, mawwidgelooking for a PROVIDER a.k.a man with resources she can exploit in exchange for sex or the possibility of sex..
Breaking rules and social cultural agreements, isnt that what "a$$holes" do after all?I should add that the more "rules" you follow the more thirsty you appear.
Women know that men only "break the rules" then they have options. So when you are sticking to standard protocol a woman knows your options are limited. The more attractive a man is.. the more unconventional he can behave. Likewise.. the more conventional a man behaves the more unattractive he is.
That was one hell of a bargain...Cheapest date I ever had, I spent $2. We met at a coffee shop. She paid for her coffee. We walked around for a bit. I suggested a movie but she said we should go back to my place instead.
We went to my place and had wild sex.
I didn't see her again because she was moving out of state for college the next week.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Indeed, it was. She always ranks up there as one of my more memorable sexual encounters.That was one hell of a bargain...
What sort of places do you use?This is why you don't go on "dates" with new women.
You meet up with them somewhere that is convenient for YOU and use that time to talk and flirt. Based on her behavior you make a judgement call on what to do next.
Any woman who balks at the idea that you won't take her out on a "proper date" is looking for a PROVIDER a.k.a man with resources she can exploit in exchange for sex or the possibility of sex.
Women are good at identifying faggots who follow traditional dating protocol and other social conventions that ONLY benefit women.
I think the best places are the city websites. There they list all the free events they have scheduled. Wish there was a place where all this info is collected.What sort of places do you use?
Anything convenient. Usually a place I plan to be anyway regardless of her showing up.What sort of places do you use?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I wouldn't have believed that but my current "hand out" gf is way more expensive. I'd even suppose prostitute will treat me better and I'd get 5x more sex action than I do now.I always believed that sex with prostitutes is muuuuch cheaper than a gf.
This is a very good one. There are usually a lot of free events on city websites. Some of them are pretty good too.I think the best places are the city websites. There they list all the free events they have scheduled. Wish there was a place where all this info is collected.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.