"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Is Your Girlfriend A Higher Earner Than You?

soulforge

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Hey guys, my current girlfriend of 6 months has a quite a well paid job.. she is an assistant manager for a retail company..

Currently she is earning more than i am.. in 6 months time she will be getting promoted to manager role of the company..

When this happens she will be earning alot more than me!!


Would you consider it a problem if your girlfriend was a higher earner than you?

Would this topple the balance of power in the relationship more in favour to her?

What potential problems could rise from this situation, or am i worrying over nothing here??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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beforeimgone

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Hey guys, my current girlfriend of 6 months has a quite a well paid job.. she is an assistant manager for a retail company..

Currently she is earning more than i am.. in 6 months time she will be getting promoted to manager role of the company..

When this happens she will be earning alot more than me!!


Would you consider it a problem if your girlfriend was a higher earner than you?

Would this topple the balance of power in the relationship more in favour to her?

What potential problems could rise from this situation, or am i worrying over nothing here??

You are Definitely worried about nothing. Unless you are unable to get her to happily spend her money on making you feel good
 

El Payaso

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Yes, it can be a problem but there are ways you can counter it. The obvious way is to simply work on your career and getting a higher paying job. Even if you can't get a higher paying job, simply being in a close range is fine. That shouldn't be your basis though. You should also work on elevating your SMV far above hers by constantly improving yourself through looks, lifting and looking like a million bucks even if you don't have a million bucks.

A woman with a million bucks would rather be with a poorer man with an alpha mindset who can get a million girls than a wealthy man with a beta mindset who can get zero girls.

I can't find the link but on the news, there was a wealthy asian man who worked in Wall Street, managed some big investments, went to Indiana University, had two MBAs from Columbia and Harvard, owned several companies. The guy was well padded. He started hooking up with a girl in one of his companies and basically turned into her sugar daddy. Unbeknownst to him, she had a boyfriend on the side who worked a dead end minimum wage job. He was basically a loser. In the end, the girl dumped the wealthy guy and accused him of "rape". Go figure.

Just continue working on yourself and improving your financial status. As long as your woman knows that you have an abundance mentality and your SMV is up there, you'll be fine.
 

marmel75

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Just fvck her better than anyone ever has. No amount of money can ever buy that.
 

EyeBRollin

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No. Her salary is irrelevant. It can taint some women by making them feel like they are better than their man. That is simply a test of your frame. If she thinks her earning status means she doesn't have to submit, she is mistaken.

Treat all women the same.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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I wish I had a girlfriend that made more then me. I would be in heaven!
 

Stugots26

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My main plate is a surgeon and a partner in her practice. She's a multimillionaire, makes way more than me, yet is head over heels for me regardless and buys me all sorts of crap I don't need.

Remember: beta bux; alpha fux (and profit).
 

dustmuffin

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I have dated loads of women that earn more than I. They pay for stuff and don't mind. They just want my company.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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skinnyguy

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I'd recommend making more money. I make a lot more than your girlfriend who's an assistant manager at Target. For a woman to outearn me she's gotta be pretty darn ambitious and educated.

It can work in your favor in that you'll have to spend less to date her. I've dated broke girls and it wasn't fun.
 
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