"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is your g/f your best friend?

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Ok this just popped into my head so i decided to post it. (btw im fairly new here, but im not a new DJ) For those of you who have girlfriends, is she just strictly your girlfriend, or is she your best friend too?

me and my gf are best friends. lol and its not cause we dont have other friends, we just really get along super well on a friends level.

I think its definately a good thing, cause it seems like a lot of times people break up its because they get together after knowing each other for a short period of time, and then later on down the road they see a side of them they dont like and get turned off to them.

its a good combination, best friends + attraction = really good healthy relationship. so what think ye?

p.s. if anyone here is subscribed to david deangelos interview series PLEEEEASE PM me! thanks!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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she is my best friend. we say it together all the time... but she upsets me alot.. read my post "it keeps coming back to haunt me"
 

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she is ur friend..I wouldnt say best friend..you should have a male best friend.

but she has to be somene you talk to about anything.


when I say this...im talking about when ur in love and ready for marriage..not a new gf
 

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oh kid it totally depends.........................

A friend is someone who believes in you, thus, supports your desires and wishes, and also looks out for your best interest in situations. A friend always has your back and takes up for you.

Your girl could be this, or should could just be the ***** you go to for ***** and just to carry around as a trophy. If you want her to be your friend, remember, you cant buy friends. You cant convince someone to be your friend, they see you and decide for themselves. If you are already together, and she has not acted like the friend I described above, she is not your friend. Does not mean she wont stay with you as your girlfriend, because she is attracted to you. She does not HAVE to be your friend, she might not agree with your dreams, but just like you and want to be with you. As for ME, I cant be in a relationship with a ***** if she aint my friend. Because if she aint my friend, why in the hell are we in a relationship, we just might as well be fvcking partners. You got me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hell NO! My room mate is my best friend. I have to depend on him to come up with half the rent/utilities everymonth and to help me out when i'm in a jam with hulking drunk tourist or if there are a pair of hotties and one of us needs a wingman, don't have to say a word, he's there for me and i'm there for him.. The level of trust I have with him is unquesitionalble.

I could lose my girlfriend tomorrow, and yeah i'd be sad, but if I lost my room mate i'd be sad and pissed and scared cause i'd have no where to go!
 

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I wouldn't say my woman is my best friend. She's my wife. I don't go drinking with her, I don't talk to her about other hot women, we have sex, I touch her boobs, we live in the same house, talk about having kids, etc etc.

However, I TREAT her like she's my best friend. I call her names, I'll throw stuff at her, I'll make fun of her, all in good fun of course and she does it back to me. We usually end up busting a gut when we're playful with each other.
 

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I always thought that's what a girlfriend was. A best friend with tits to suck on.
 

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There is nothing wrong to be friends with a woman you are fvcking ... now, the trouble comes when you find a girl who should be acting like a woman and instead looks up to you like some sort of father figure. You can't be friends with those type of girls, you have to be authoritative.
 

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Your gf should never be your best friend. Infact you should just have mostly male friends. Females should be kept strictly for dating and being your girlfriend (mostly).
like the saying goes "Female friends? I have no female friends, I only have girlfriends," keep women as that, your girlfriends.

Friends should be your pals, the guys you do manly stuff with, like hanging out watching sports, going to play pool etc. Men don't need female friends as long as they have a girlfriend. If you have a girlfriend you don't need to hang out with other females, keep that spot reserved to your pals to do fun stuff and hang out. Hanging out with female friends only leads to being turned into a sissy/metrosexual. It is just not healthy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Chicks always say that your girlfriend should be your best friend. It doesn't work that way. If you are best friends with your gf, then she equates you to that: a friend. Don't ever tell her she is your best friend. She is your girlfriend, meaning you have sex with her.
 

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I think the problem in this thread is that people have different definitions of what being a friend means.

If being a friend to someone, to you, means sharing feelings, have weak moments together, doing nice things for eachother all the time, being there in times of need, endlessly talking on the phone, making sacrifices for eachother....and doing these things a LOT - You're fvcked, prepare for a cluster bomb of testing on a regular basis and for her to be generally uphappy.

If being a friend to someone, to you, is more like desdinova describes you're golden, since girls love this kind of behavior.

However, I TREAT her like she's my best friend. I call her names, I'll throw stuff at her, I'll make fun of her, all in good fun of course and she does it back to me. We usually end up busting a gut when we're playful with each other.
I equate being "best friends" with women to "Being able to hang out together and get along reallly well"
 

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Does this mean I'm not allowed to cry when I watch Oprah with my girlfriend anymore??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't fall into the trap of being "friends" with your gf, or else it will probably bite you in the ass eventually bceause although not blatantly obvious, it actually changes her feeling towards you a little bit, even if she doesn't think so.

My gf tried to call me her friend once, and i told her that she is not my friend; she is my girlfriend, and there's a big difference.

Ask yourself this: if you broke up with your gf, would you two be "friends?" Would you go out for coffee as "friends?" I know I wouldn't!
 
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