Scars
Master Don Juan
One thing I've realized through my friend (someone who I learned most of my natural game from) is the art of body language. It's nothing he ever verbalized to me, but it was a recent observation I made and have been putting into practice.
I always wondered how this guy got girls to approach him even without saying a word. Whenever we encountered a 2-3 set, he usually had first dibs. He would take the hottest one, and I would get the "leftovers". This amazed me, because I actually considered myself more attractive looking. But a closer observation made me realize how he carries himself and it works for him.
We've all ran C+F on woman, but this guy's aura simply screams confident/****y. Even if he doesn't say a single word, you get this feeling like "I got to be SOMEBODY just to talk to him." I've been his friend sense high school, so he treats me as an equal, but being the observationalist I am, I have noticed that often men are intimidated by him and woman simply lust him.
This is a guy who always stands/sits with good posture. He usually flails his arms exaggeratedly while walking, broadens his shoulders and often walks "wide" to give himself a "bigger presence". When a girl is talking (especially one that I KNOW he is attracted to/trying to bed), he has an expressionless/indifferent look on his face. He truly seems like he "doesn't care." His body just always seems relaxed, like he can take on anything.
Now, you can learn a bunch of gimmicks on this site, but I think body language is something that is often missed. What's an awesome C+F line, if your body is saying something completely opposite?
When we have our arms folded, or keep our bodies closed in, we are telling people we want to "protect" ourselves, we make the target of our body smaller, and we aren't as noticeable. Subconsciously, all men and woman pick up on this. It takes about 4 minutes to make a first impression on someone. Sometimes we make this impression without even saying a word, but it will follow us through our future relationships with this person forever.
What is your body telling other people?
Do you hunch over?
Do you keep your shoulders broad?
Do you cross your legs while you sit (either at the ankles, or legs?)
Do you sit more elevated than other people, or lower than other people?
Do you lean back?
Do you put your hands in your pockets a lot?
All of these things can send signals to other people about you. They may not fully recognize them consciencely, but deep down in their head they already have a good "understanding" of who you are.
Try a social experiment. Go out and try to emanate and aura of confidence. Be conscience of the way you sit, walk, and interact with others. I have been doing this lately and have noticed amazing results already. I feel more respected by men, and I find wandering female eyes looking at me more frequently. Of course, the goal is to actually BE/FEEL confident so you emanate this aura naturally, but for some of us, we have to fake it until we make it.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/body/body_language.htm
Good luck my friends.
-Scars
I always wondered how this guy got girls to approach him even without saying a word. Whenever we encountered a 2-3 set, he usually had first dibs. He would take the hottest one, and I would get the "leftovers". This amazed me, because I actually considered myself more attractive looking. But a closer observation made me realize how he carries himself and it works for him.
We've all ran C+F on woman, but this guy's aura simply screams confident/****y. Even if he doesn't say a single word, you get this feeling like "I got to be SOMEBODY just to talk to him." I've been his friend sense high school, so he treats me as an equal, but being the observationalist I am, I have noticed that often men are intimidated by him and woman simply lust him.
This is a guy who always stands/sits with good posture. He usually flails his arms exaggeratedly while walking, broadens his shoulders and often walks "wide" to give himself a "bigger presence". When a girl is talking (especially one that I KNOW he is attracted to/trying to bed), he has an expressionless/indifferent look on his face. He truly seems like he "doesn't care." His body just always seems relaxed, like he can take on anything.
Now, you can learn a bunch of gimmicks on this site, but I think body language is something that is often missed. What's an awesome C+F line, if your body is saying something completely opposite?
When we have our arms folded, or keep our bodies closed in, we are telling people we want to "protect" ourselves, we make the target of our body smaller, and we aren't as noticeable. Subconsciously, all men and woman pick up on this. It takes about 4 minutes to make a first impression on someone. Sometimes we make this impression without even saying a word, but it will follow us through our future relationships with this person forever.
What is your body telling other people?
Do you hunch over?
Do you keep your shoulders broad?
Do you cross your legs while you sit (either at the ankles, or legs?)
Do you sit more elevated than other people, or lower than other people?
Do you lean back?
Do you put your hands in your pockets a lot?
All of these things can send signals to other people about you. They may not fully recognize them consciencely, but deep down in their head they already have a good "understanding" of who you are.
Try a social experiment. Go out and try to emanate and aura of confidence. Be conscience of the way you sit, walk, and interact with others. I have been doing this lately and have noticed amazing results already. I feel more respected by men, and I find wandering female eyes looking at me more frequently. Of course, the goal is to actually BE/FEEL confident so you emanate this aura naturally, but for some of us, we have to fake it until we make it.
http://changingminds.org/techniques/body/body_language.htm
Good luck my friends.
-Scars