"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this Woman Interested in Me?

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Recently, I've noticed that a female student at my university has been smiling at me and giving me direct eye contact when I walk past her on campus, and I have smiled back at her and said hello twice as well. One time she and I ran into each other twice in the computer lab. I looked at her straight in the eye, to see if she would look away when our eyes meet, but she looked back into my eyes and said, smiling, "See ya."


Interestingly, she's a student I myself have noticed as well and quite pretty. I just haven't found her in the right environment so far to talk to her. I'm ready for her and both of us seem to be playing the same game...she knows it. I've noticed that when she sees me sitting in a particular row at the computer lab at school, she too comes and sits on the same row, even though not directly near me. Matter of fact, I'm seeing her as I write this, but she's focused on typing a paper and there's losts of students sitting around her, so now might not be the best time. I'm not worried. The next time we run into each other face to face, I'm not letting her go without trying to get her number. My only concern though is that I've seen her so far talking to a lot of the student athletes at school-basket ball players, etc. I'm a graduate student and one of the few black males at my university, a private Catholic university. This particular female student seems to be Hispanic. Most of the white female students at my university, based on personal experiences and accounts from others, aren't very receptive at all to being approached by black males, so I pretty much prefer looking outside of school for hook ups. Anyway, we'll see how things go.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tr0ublemaker

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i've read the first sentence, and as far as i'm concerned you're a pu$$y

hurry to approach her or she'll get the same idea!
 

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It's hard to tell.

I get eye contact and smiles from like 3 different chicks a day at my college.

To me, it's just a nice gesture in a good college atmosphere.

I approach a couple of these nice smile/eye contacts before but they haven't gotten me anywhere besides a friendship.

You have to read more into their body language: it's not just eye contact and smile y'know.
 

Frank2500

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Re:

Trouble Maker, I don't appreciate your response at all. You don't know anything about my prior dating history, nor do you know me personally, so don't judge me. To IamRambo, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Frank2500

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Re:

Trouble Maker, I don't appreciate your response. You don't know me personally and don't know anything about my dating history, so don't judge me. IamRambo, thanks for your feedback.
 

tr0ublemaker

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**** you

Seirously, don't take the Internet so seriously..it was a random immature joke, not an insult to your character..I'm sure you're a great guy..


I'll keep an eye out for your sentiments next time.
 

THE_ADDMAN

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Frank, lighten up

Troublemaker, grow up

see? everyones happy :)
 
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