"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is this Woman Interested in Me?

Frank2500

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Recently, I've noticed that a female student at my university has been smiling at me and giving me direct eye contact when I walk past her on campus, and I have smiled back at her and said hello twice as well. One time she and I ran into each other twice in the computer lab. I looked at her straight in the eye, to see if she would look away when our eyes meet, but she looked back into my eyes and said, smiling, "See ya."


Interestingly, she's a student I myself have noticed as well and quite pretty. I just haven't found her in the right environment so far to talk to her. I'm ready for her and both of us seem to be playing the same game...she knows it. I've noticed that when she sees me sitting in a particular row at the computer lab at school, she too comes and sits on the same row, even though not directly near me. Matter of fact, I'm seeing her as I write this, but she's focused on typing a paper and there's losts of students sitting around her, so now might not be the best time. I'm not worried. The next time we run into each other face to face, I'm not letting her go without trying to get her number. My only concern though is that I've seen her so far talking to a lot of the student athletes at school-basket ball players, etc. I'm a graduate student and one of the few black males at my university, a private Catholic university. This particular female student seems to be Hispanic. Most of the white female students at my university, based on personal experiences and accounts from others, aren't very receptive at all to being approached by black males, so I pretty much prefer looking outside of school for hook ups. Anyway, we'll see how things go.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tr0ublemaker

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i've read the first sentence, and as far as i'm concerned you're a pu$$y

hurry to approach her or she'll get the same idea!
 

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It's hard to tell.

I get eye contact and smiles from like 3 different chicks a day at my college.

To me, it's just a nice gesture in a good college atmosphere.

I approach a couple of these nice smile/eye contacts before but they haven't gotten me anywhere besides a friendship.

You have to read more into their body language: it's not just eye contact and smile y'know.
 

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Re:

Trouble Maker, I don't appreciate your response at all. You don't know anything about my prior dating history, nor do you know me personally, so don't judge me. To IamRambo, thank you for sharing your thoughts.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Re:

Trouble Maker, I don't appreciate your response. You don't know me personally and don't know anything about my dating history, so don't judge me. IamRambo, thanks for your feedback.
 

tr0ublemaker

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**** you

Seirously, don't take the Internet so seriously..it was a random immature joke, not an insult to your character..I'm sure you're a great guy..


I'll keep an eye out for your sentiments next time.
 

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Frank, lighten up

Troublemaker, grow up

see? everyones happy :)
 
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