"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is this typical for girls with low self esteem (interest or not)

John_Smith

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I'm just wondering is this a sign of interest here........because some girls are just strange. What do you think?

I'm in college right now.

This girl is very pretty but has low self esteem, thats pretty much public information.

When she met me at first, she seems really friendly and gave a lot of green lights. But now, she seems really distant and aloof to me (e.g. she would almost never initiate a conversation with, only laughs at my jokes if we're alone etc). I did not do anything "unDJ".
For everyone else she and I hang out with, she seems so much more friendly, such as she would initiate conversations and stuff. It's like she ignores me and only me. But none of them are "hotter" than me I'd say.

I don't get why.....

I'm pretty cute I would say, and I'm really well accomplished for my age.

She has a really abusive bf but I have no gf right now.

What she doing lol?????
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do you suffer from having lower status in your group? Are you the center of attention? When you talk do people quiet down and listen to you? Think about that and simmer on it.
 

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FM 3321 said:
Do you suffer from having lower status in your group? Are you the center of attention? When you talk do people quiet down and listen to you? Think about that and simmer on it.
1) Exact opposite
2)Depends
3)Sometimes
 

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Maybe something to do with the abusive boyfriend?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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theSpeculator

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John_Smith said:
What she doing lol?????
She's probably nervous around you. Haven't you ever had a huge crush on a girl that it's become hard to just talk to her? It's the same way with them. If you are absolutely sure that she likes you and want something to happen, you're gonna have to make the first move because she will not.
 

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Not absoluately sure, but she talks to everyone but me. I'm not bad lookinng i know.............even if I was, I don't think that qualifies to ignore someone.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dude, dealing with the same thing. got a lot of green lights. she has guys after her too. but defiantley a lot of green lights but she doesnt initiate things i have to do all that sh*t and she acts flakey sometimes. she did say though when we were in her bed that i make her real nervous. could be the same thing. you gotta probably make a move on her cause she aint going to. basically you got to lower her risk. These girls are kind of complicated they are too wishy washy or she just is playing games but most likely she has low self esteem and shy around you. Just dont fvck up too much pursuing her.
 
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