"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Is this typical for girls with low self esteem (interest or not)

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I'm just wondering is this a sign of interest here........because some girls are just strange. What do you think?

I'm in college right now.

This girl is very pretty but has low self esteem, thats pretty much public information.

When she met me at first, she seems really friendly and gave a lot of green lights. But now, she seems really distant and aloof to me (e.g. she would almost never initiate a conversation with, only laughs at my jokes if we're alone etc). I did not do anything "unDJ".
For everyone else she and I hang out with, she seems so much more friendly, such as she would initiate conversations and stuff. It's like she ignores me and only me. But none of them are "hotter" than me I'd say.

I don't get why.....

I'm pretty cute I would say, and I'm really well accomplished for my age.

She has a really abusive bf but I have no gf right now.

What she doing lol?????
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Do you suffer from having lower status in your group? Are you the center of attention? When you talk do people quiet down and listen to you? Think about that and simmer on it.
 
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FM 3321 said:
Do you suffer from having lower status in your group? Are you the center of attention? When you talk do people quiet down and listen to you? Think about that and simmer on it.
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1) Exact opposite
2)Depends
3)Sometimes
 
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Maybe something to do with the abusive boyfriend?
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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John_Smith said:
What she doing lol?????
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She's probably nervous around you. Haven't you ever had a huge crush on a girl that it's become hard to just talk to her? It's the same way with them. If you are absolutely sure that she likes you and want something to happen, you're gonna have to make the first move because she will not.
 
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Not absoluately sure, but she talks to everyone but me. I'm not bad lookinng i know.............even if I was, I don't think that qualifies to ignore someone.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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dude, dealing with the same thing. got a lot of green lights. she has guys after her too. but defiantley a lot of green lights but she doesnt initiate things i have to do all that sh*t and she acts flakey sometimes. she did say though when we were in her bed that i make her real nervous. could be the same thing. you gotta probably make a move on her cause she aint going to. basically you got to lower her risk. These girls are kind of complicated they are too wishy washy or she just is playing games but most likely she has low self esteem and shy around you. Just dont fvck up too much pursuing her.
 
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