"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this typical female behaviour? Am I doing something wrong?

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So I met this HB8 in a club by doing everything by the book. Been nofap for 2 weeks already so my testosterone was sky high.

I live in a foreign country and don't speak the language well (working on it), she's a local who barely speaks English, well, we didn't do much taking in the club (heavy making out) but that ended by exchanging email addresses as we said goodbye.

We emailed back and forth, scheduled for ice cream, used Google Translate most of the time, was a bit weird but fine, a week or so later I invited her over to my place for dinner. We ****ed for like 2 hours and then I walked her home.

Her emails became a lot more "friendly" and warm, more frequent. We scheduled once again, she showed up and basically shut me down every time I tried to make a move. The language barrier was a real problem here, I finally confronted her and asked her what the F is going on. She said "I want to but I am bleeding".......hahaha well, I told her it's all cool and we still ****ed. She was on her period but I was horny like a dog.

So we talked back and forth on email since, I asked her out twice already to meet for coffee at my university and every time she declined ("not good time for me, sorry :("). I mean, I never get to see her during the week and we're studying at the same university for ****'s sake!
It also takes her hours to answer my emails (I let her wait as well, lol)


So today I asked her about her plans for the weekend and she said she'll be studying a lot for her test on monday and we can only meet next week "sorry.....:(".

WTF is going on? Am I being too needy?

What should I email her back? Is it normal that we barely talk?

Thanks guys
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I would say, now just let her come to you. Pursuing her now will just drive her away.
 

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showed desperation by f*cking on her period, OR just another guy, possible boyfriend.
When you're on nofap and you're expecting sex for a whole week and then the only thing stopping you from getting it is a little menstrual blood?
Especially when you're a 2nd year med student?
 

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I would say, now just let her come to you. Pursuing her now will just drive her away.
OK so what should I do now? Not reply at all and wait for her to contact me once more?
 

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She said she´d be free next week right, so just tell her something like "OK no problem, so let me know when you are free" If she still wants to meet you, she will get back to you. You already invited her like 3 times in a row, stop that.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She said she´d be free next week right, so just tell her something like "OK no problem, so let me know when you are free" If she still wants to meet you, she will get back to you. You already invited her like 3 times in a row, stop that.
Wouldn't it imply that my calendar is free all the time and I'm just sitting there waiting for her..? I mean that's probably better than whatever I've done so far this week but...
 

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Man, who really cares? She is in your rotation, isn't she?

If your rotation consists solely of her, then you need to change - not her.

You have approached how many women since you had PIV-sex with her?
One, but I'm a f**king med student, no time bro.
 

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Wouldn't it imply that my calendar is free all the time and I'm just sitting there waiting for her..? I mean that's probably better than whatever I've done so far this week but...
It doesnt matter because you will walk away and never look back, unless she contacts you.
 

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Then here is your weakness.

You think this girl gives a sh*t for your circumstance, and takes that into account for her attraction? lol.

All I'm saying is that you take your circumstances into account, and plan accordingly. She sure as hell won't.
Got it. Girls don't act on logic.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I would say, now just let her come to you. Pursuing her now will just drive her away.
THIS

you asked, she told you she was busy. no need to reply with anything. if she is interested she will text when she is free. in the meantime, dont wait, keep pursuing other chicks
 

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OK lads she just sent me a message saying "OK" and asking me what am I doing right now and about my exams. I have no idea what's up with this girl. What should I do? Answer? No?

I really do have lots of exams, I'll be only free on monday afternoon
 

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"Hey there, I'm studying hard for these exams at the end of the week. On Monday afternoon I'm going to be ready to blow off some steam. If you think you can keep up, I'll swing by and meet you at 3:00 pm and we can make the most of this brief moment together. You like Red or White? (wine)"
 

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I will text her after my exam on Friday. The problem is, I don't know if she can do Monday and I don't want her to cancel yet another invitation.

How about if I ask her on Thursday? Isn't it too early? (6 days in advance)
 

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I will text her after my exam on Friday. The problem is, I don't know if she can do Monday and I don't want her to cancel yet another invitation.

How about if I ask her on Thursday? Isn't it too early? (6 days in advance)
When you get to the point that they are flaking like this, can stop talking to her for a week. After about 3 days she will become a little concerned.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you get to the point that they are flaking like this, can stop talking to her for a week. After about 3 days she will become a little concerned.
That's why I'm withdrawing my focus and will reply on Friday (about 3 days since her email)
 

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So I met this HB8 in a club by doing everything by the book. Been nofap for 2 weeks already so my testosterone was sky high.

I live in a foreign country and don't speak the language well (working on it), she's a local who barely speaks English, well, we didn't do much taking in the club (heavy making out) but that ended by exchanging email addresses as we said goodbye.

We emailed back and forth, scheduled for ice cream, used Google Translate most of the time, was a bit weird but fine, a week or so later I invited her over to my place for dinner. We ****ed for like 2 hours and then I walked her home.

Her emails became a lot more "friendly" and warm, more frequent. We scheduled once again, she showed up and basically shut me down every time I tried to make a move. The language barrier was a real problem here, I finally confronted her and asked her what the F is going on. She said "I want to but I am bleeding".......hahaha well, I told her it's all cool and we still ****ed. She was on her period but I was horny like a dog.

So we talked back and forth on email since, I asked her out twice already to meet for coffee at my university and every time she declined ("not good time for me, sorry :("). I mean, I never get to see her during the week and we're studying at the same university for ****'s sake!
It also takes her hours to answer my emails (I let her wait as well, lol)


So today I asked her about her plans for the weekend and she said she'll be studying a lot for her test on monday and we can only meet next week "sorry.....:(".

WTF is going on? Am I being too needy?

What should I email her back? Is it normal that we barely talk?

Thanks guys
Withdraw attention. If she is interested, she will miss you snd reach out. If not, you have your answer.
 

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Man, who really cares? She is in your rotation, isn't she?

If your rotation consists solely of her, then you need to change - not her.

You have approached how many women since you had PIV-sex with her?
This ^^
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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