A girl I know who just recently broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years begins to show lots of interest to me. Several monhs back when we knew each other a little bit she told me she was afraid becasue she might be pregnant, etc. etc. etc. and gave me the "I was too drunk and didn't know what I was doing, and had no over myself" line. Normally when I hear that line I easily assume that this type of girl is promiscuous and shouldn't be considered for a LTR. What do you guys have to say from your expiriences with these types of girls? Is my stereo type right on the mark or should I give her a chance? I mean..... I don't want to be in a LTR with a whoore. Thanks.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is this type of girl good for LTR or is she just another *****.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She doesn't sound too far out of the ordinary, unfortunately. Your opinion of her, I suppose, will have to depend on your beliefs.
Before you waste time judging her, though, you ought to make sure that she's not just using you to fill in the gap and/or to get back at her boyfriend. First things first, as they say.
Best,
Ach.
Before you waste time judging her, though, you ought to make sure that she's not just using you to fill in the gap and/or to get back at her boyfriend. First things first, as they say.
Best,
Ach.
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You're thinking about LTRs and you're not even dating this girl yet?? How WOULD you know if she's LTR material if you haven't spent any romantic time with her? Stop jumping the gun.
I'd see if you can hit it first. She'll show signs if she's LTR material or not. But my guess is "not".
I'd see if you can hit it first. She'll show signs if she's LTR material or not. But my guess is "not".
"I was too drunk and didn't know what I was doing, and had no over myself" I can't help but to assume things early on. Everytime I hear that it seems to me like she's trying to cover up the fact that she may have been sleeping around. I don't know.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.