"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is this true?
- Thread starter domino
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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If a girl gives you LMR it's because her inner slvt is feeling you're untrustworthy or she has absolutely nothing to gain from fvcking you.
iqqi
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A lot of women think they might jeopardize a LTR by sleeping with you too soon. There are many men who could confirm not only that, but that they would indeed lose interest if a woman put out too soon.
So yes. Some women wait, because they want something deeper with you.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
It's really dependent on the situation. I think NOW, in the state of mind I've been of late..I will definitely wait longer.
This is in many women's playbook but they don't always follow it. The ironic thing is if a guy happened to want a LTR and follows a long with a girls hold back the sex game she is less likely to get into a relationship with him.domino said:
I think what happens with some women is they get into a relationship with a guy after they have sex with the guy and then the guy totally changes by calling her frequently and just being real needy and the relationship ends but he continues to try to get her by calling frequently, so I think to prevent this from happening some women want to screen the guy to see if he will change after sex.SunnyD said:
ketostix said:
If the guy makes no attempts to violate the contract she spit at him....then ya you are right. As long as he still attempts to get some but lets her 'stop' him then it will grow into a LTR. She has to know you are interested. You just can't plop down and be her best hangout buddy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ketostix said:
watching a buddy go thru it now with a 'born again' girl. It's been a couple of months and he's up to doing "everything but" lol. She reeling him in...but he's got 4 more on the side he's seeing. I'm trying to step my game up to my friends level.