"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is this the friends zone?

ICaughtFire

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This chick and i knew eachother for a few weeks now, and we hung out twice just watching movies.

i am not really trying hard to get her, i tease her and neg hit her but overal i am using her as a practice or a test

i flirted with her lightly n called her sugar, she just laughed n said she liked it etc

last nite she was force to have new year dinner with her parents, she told me to text her, but i didnt really take it seriously, so i just sent her a happy new year text

then today she said im rude and angry because i didnt text her even though she asked me to, i was like :s

n 2nite we talked on msn n she asked me wat kind of sexual kinky stuff have i done

so we exchanged our sexual experience and what was the furtherest we have gone ( we are both early teens give us a break lol)

so was that signs that i am in the friends zone?
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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splinterkb

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Try making a move on her. If it doesn't work, then you're probably in the friend zone.
 

ICaughtFire

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what kind of move exactly

officially asking her out? coz before we were strictlly just hanging out

kiss her?
 

Fitch

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I didn't read the OP, but the friend zone is not a permanent situation.

You can easily exist it, just as quickly as you entered it.

It's not a big deal. You are analyzing the wrong area. Just go in there, and act as if she is just a casual friend.

It's all in your head. If you believe you can't get out the friend's zone, you won't. Simple as that. Your behavior exudes your mentality, so you truly have to change it.

EDIT: I read it, and she is probably under the impression that you are not really attracted to her. You can easily get her, if you want, by flirting with her again, etc. And yes, ask her out if you WANT to go out with her.

Don't be lame and date to merely hook up. If you just want sex, ask if she wants to hook-up. Simple as that. I doubt she would mind.
 

Lost In the Seas

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thx fitch, ur probably one of the most helpful guys here, its a good thing the board has ppl like you

mayb you are right about her not sure if i like her or not.

she often tells me how she flirts with other ppl or how she is always the center of attention of boys, im assuming she was trying to make me jealous

even now i am not sure if i really do want her or not, guess i will play the same way and see
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Damian

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When a girl kiss-and-tells to a guy, she's usually trying to attract you. My advice to you is to have more face-to-face conversations with her or some QUALITY phone calls. Initiate some kino (touching) like stroking her hair, putting a hand on her knee, or holding hands. If she's comfortable, go for a kiss. If she is attracted to you, things will progress naturally from there.

-Damian
 
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