"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this the friends zone?

ICaughtFire

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This chick and i knew eachother for a few weeks now, and we hung out twice just watching movies.

i am not really trying hard to get her, i tease her and neg hit her but overal i am using her as a practice or a test

i flirted with her lightly n called her sugar, she just laughed n said she liked it etc

last nite she was force to have new year dinner with her parents, she told me to text her, but i didnt really take it seriously, so i just sent her a happy new year text

then today she said im rude and angry because i didnt text her even though she asked me to, i was like :s

n 2nite we talked on msn n she asked me wat kind of sexual kinky stuff have i done

so we exchanged our sexual experience and what was the furtherest we have gone ( we are both early teens give us a break lol)

so was that signs that i am in the friends zone?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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splinterkb

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Try making a move on her. If it doesn't work, then you're probably in the friend zone.
 

ICaughtFire

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what kind of move exactly

officially asking her out? coz before we were strictlly just hanging out

kiss her?
 

Fitch

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I didn't read the OP, but the friend zone is not a permanent situation.

You can easily exist it, just as quickly as you entered it.

It's not a big deal. You are analyzing the wrong area. Just go in there, and act as if she is just a casual friend.

It's all in your head. If you believe you can't get out the friend's zone, you won't. Simple as that. Your behavior exudes your mentality, so you truly have to change it.

EDIT: I read it, and she is probably under the impression that you are not really attracted to her. You can easily get her, if you want, by flirting with her again, etc. And yes, ask her out if you WANT to go out with her.

Don't be lame and date to merely hook up. If you just want sex, ask if she wants to hook-up. Simple as that. I doubt she would mind.
 

Lost In the Seas

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thx fitch, ur probably one of the most helpful guys here, its a good thing the board has ppl like you

mayb you are right about her not sure if i like her or not.

she often tells me how she flirts with other ppl or how she is always the center of attention of boys, im assuming she was trying to make me jealous

even now i am not sure if i really do want her or not, guess i will play the same way and see
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damian

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When a girl kiss-and-tells to a guy, she's usually trying to attract you. My advice to you is to have more face-to-face conversations with her or some QUALITY phone calls. Initiate some kino (touching) like stroking her hair, putting a hand on her knee, or holding hands. If she's comfortable, go for a kiss. If she is attracted to you, things will progress naturally from there.

-Damian
 
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