"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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is this situation still salvagable with this girl? drunk texted her....

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first day, this girl was texting me twice in a row and asked me if i was doing anything this weekend. i said party on saturday, free on sunday. asked her to hang out wit me on sunday. says she has work on sunday...then i told her to double check on sunday that she should rather be doing something fun wit me instead of work. she says she still has work.

me: i then say just testing to c if ur a bad grl
hb: i am a classy girl

saw her later at a party, but she said she had to leave and left wit a hug. went back to my friends house saw her there wit another guy =[ she later ditched the guy cause she saw me there, but did not make any moves on me even though i was ****ing wasted.

but basically, i texted her that she was ****ing hot taht night which telegraphs too much interest right? then i said i didnt see her leave wit a guy so i still have a chance haha which is dumb.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Its fine, there's nothing wrong with showing interest as long as you aren't needy about it.
 

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thanks a lot tesl. i hope i can still get this girl. most grls in college tho r just looking for hookups
 

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It's fine man. It's okay to show interest and compliment like that. It's okay to say "you looked ****ing gorgeous that night". But just know that people are busy and have work. When she says no, just act cool and say "maybe some other time" Try again later and if she keeps blowing you off, then walk. But take it slow, don't expect everything. Keep it going slow but with interest. You can never go slow with women. Even the sluvts want to be treated like princess' in the beginning. Good luck.
 

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what should i text her next time to have the best possible chance of succeeding?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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you're not gonna' get laid with this one unless you do the extreme stuff of totally ignoring her
 

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cguy2004 said:
what should i text her next time to have the best possible chance of succeeding?
Do you seriously think that a text is going to dramatically alter the course of this thing?

Either she wants to get naked with you or she doesn't. It's not like there's some magic password. You could say, "Let's pregame at my place and go out for a party." And if she's the real deal, she'll bang you at the pregame and forget about the partying part. The best chance of succeeding is "Hey let's (blank) at (blank)." That simple. If she digs you, she'll be down to hangout wherever, whenever.

And no, there's nothing wrong with the text you sent her. Just don't make a habit of the drunk text.


parrot84 said:
you're not gonna' get laid with this one unless you do the extreme stuff of totally ignoring her
I kinda agree. The chick turns down a chance to meet him out partying, but she's out partying herself. Seems kinda shady. But he knows the situation better than me.
 

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just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?
 

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cguy2004 said:
just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?
forget that she's a model. then set up the date as you would with anybody else...
 

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cguy2004 said:
just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?

Tell her how big a fan you are of hers and how lucky you are to know her.

Treat her like any other girl, man. Okay so she's pretty....a new batch of pretty girls turn "legal" every day. Pretty is replaceable. She still has a lot to prove to you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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