"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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is this situation still salvagable with this girl? drunk texted her....

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first day, this girl was texting me twice in a row and asked me if i was doing anything this weekend. i said party on saturday, free on sunday. asked her to hang out wit me on sunday. says she has work on sunday...then i told her to double check on sunday that she should rather be doing something fun wit me instead of work. she says she still has work.

me: i then say just testing to c if ur a bad grl
hb: i am a classy girl

saw her later at a party, but she said she had to leave and left wit a hug. went back to my friends house saw her there wit another guy =[ she later ditched the guy cause she saw me there, but did not make any moves on me even though i was ****ing wasted.

but basically, i texted her that she was ****ing hot taht night which telegraphs too much interest right? then i said i didnt see her leave wit a guy so i still have a chance haha which is dumb.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tesl

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Its fine, there's nothing wrong with showing interest as long as you aren't needy about it.
 

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thanks a lot tesl. i hope i can still get this girl. most grls in college tho r just looking for hookups
 

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It's fine man. It's okay to show interest and compliment like that. It's okay to say "you looked ****ing gorgeous that night". But just know that people are busy and have work. When she says no, just act cool and say "maybe some other time" Try again later and if she keeps blowing you off, then walk. But take it slow, don't expect everything. Keep it going slow but with interest. You can never go slow with women. Even the sluvts want to be treated like princess' in the beginning. Good luck.
 

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what should i text her next time to have the best possible chance of succeeding?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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parrot84

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you're not gonna' get laid with this one unless you do the extreme stuff of totally ignoring her
 

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cguy2004 said:
what should i text her next time to have the best possible chance of succeeding?
Do you seriously think that a text is going to dramatically alter the course of this thing?

Either she wants to get naked with you or she doesn't. It's not like there's some magic password. You could say, "Let's pregame at my place and go out for a party." And if she's the real deal, she'll bang you at the pregame and forget about the partying part. The best chance of succeeding is "Hey let's (blank) at (blank)." That simple. If she digs you, she'll be down to hangout wherever, whenever.

And no, there's nothing wrong with the text you sent her. Just don't make a habit of the drunk text.


parrot84 said:
you're not gonna' get laid with this one unless you do the extreme stuff of totally ignoring her
I kinda agree. The chick turns down a chance to meet him out partying, but she's out partying herself. Seems kinda shady. But he knows the situation better than me.
 

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just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?
 

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cguy2004 said:
just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?
forget that she's a model. then set up the date as you would with anybody else...
 

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cguy2004 said:
just found out she is a model. how do u set up a day 2 with someone like that?

Tell her how big a fan you are of hers and how lucky you are to know her.

Treat her like any other girl, man. Okay so she's pretty....a new batch of pretty girls turn "legal" every day. Pretty is replaceable. She still has a lot to prove to you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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