Is this situation salvageable?

[asaproc]

So a bit of background on my situation...

I initially met this local cutie..probably a solid 8/10 ,on Tinder last Christmas while I was casually dating another girl. Long story short, we went out twice, made out a bit and parted ways as she got back together with her off and on bf and I continued with my girl at the time. She randomly messaged me 2 months after our last meet and told me she would be gone for a bit and would message me when she was back (social media showed me that she had moved across the country to be with her bf)

Fast forward to this past summer, she messaged me she was back in town. She would randomly start conversations but I didn't really read much into it because I was dating a new girl and she still appeared to still be with the same long term bf and I don't really try and get in taken girls pants.

Mid September, I saw an update on Facebook she was single and drunkenly started pursuing her via text. We set up a date for the following week.

For the past month and a half, we've been going out for drinks at local dives 1-2 times a week and having sex at my place after. In retrospect, it was kind of "bootycallish" in nature but I wanted to wait for a bit longer to see if we were actually compatible before mentally and formally taking things more seriously. A week ago she broke it off and said I " wasn't taking things in a serious direction" and though she really liked me, she didn't think it was right to continue.

We met a couple days later. She told me was looking to settle down (we're both 25) and she didn't get the vibe I was into it. The whole time she was playing with my hair and touching me, was super perky and we were actually cracking jokes and having a pretty open conversation. I dropped her off and told her to hit me up if she ever wants to hook up in the future and grabbed her ass and she giggled lol

Anyway, I know shes a shady chick, all over the place, probably banging another guy, etc. but I don't really care as I'm not trying to stay exclusive with her...I actually ended up liking her personality a lot and the sex was pretty great and shes local.

Been keeping it no contact....last night she sent me some pics of her Halloween costume and asked if I liked it lol but other then that no convos

I know the advice here is usually "go bang other girls" and I have been and have a couple others lined up ...I'm willing to accept this may be over but I'd still like to keep this one around if at all possible

Whats the best course of action here gents?

 

[Jetleg]

She is a h0e, so you should just try and a keep her as plate.
try setting another f*ck date, now she knows you're not serious about it, and you should now that too.

 

[asaproc]

Yea she def gets around. I like her more than the other girls I have lined up though but would never wife her up

When we met I told her I'd take things more seriously but she said actions speak louder than words over the past few weeks. To be honest, I was lying to her with the hopes for keeping her around for sex and company and never really had the intention of settling down with her as a girlfriend.

Anyone have any advice when I should try and hit her up for a hookup? Should I try soon since we hooked up so recently (I had sex with her last a few days ago just before she broke it off) or go ghost for a bit and try and recreate some tension?

 

[dustmuffin]

Yea she def gets around. I like her more than the other girls I have lined up though but would never wife her up

When we met I told her I'd take things more seriously but she said actions speak louder than words over the past few weeks. To be honest, I was lying to her with the hopes for keeping her around for sex and company and never really had the intention of settling down with her as a girlfriend.

Anyone have any advice when I should try and hit her up for a hookup? Should I try soon since we hooked up so recently (I had sex with her last a few days ago just before she broke it off) or go ghost for a bit and try and recreate some tension?

Why not let her contact you? That way you know she is interested. Recreate the tension.

 

[asaproc]

Why not let her contact you? That way you know she is interested. Recreate the tension.

Losers on Instagram and other social media allow women, especially in a major North American city to basically pick who they want.
I always stood out. I'm not a social media or phone guy so I was never really blowing up her phone, "liking" all her crap etc......It seems that she needs someone whose going to provide that validation and thats what she looks for when dating rather than the person them self (an observation of mine)

This girl has an ego because shes very attractive and more than enough guys trying to buy her dinner at any given time

That being said, obviously none of these are desirable qualities in a mate but I reiterate, shes a smokeshow and super close to my place so I'd like to salvage her as a booty call..my only concern is that I would have to initiate it because I can see her never hitting me up again and I'm trying to figure out the most strategic way of making this happen

 

[dustmuffin]

Losers on Instagram and other social media allow women, especially in a major North American city to basically pick who they want.
I always stood out. I'm not a social media or phone guy so I was never really blowing up her phone, "liking" all her crap etc......It seems that she needs someone whose going to provide that validation and thats what she looks for when dating rather than the person them self (an observation of mine)

This girl has an ego because shes very attractive and more than enough guys trying to buy her dinner at any given time

That being said, obviously none of these are desirable qualities in a mate but I reiterate, shes a smokeshow and super close to my place so I'd like to salvage her as a booty call..my only concern is that I would have to initiate it because I can see her never hitting me up again and I'm trying to figure out the most strategic way of making this happen

If she dosent contact you she has low interest. If you want to try wait 5 days and hit her up for a date. If the date doesn't result in sex move on.

 

[asaproc]

If she dosent contact you she has low interest. If you want to try wait 5 days and hit her up for a date. If the date doesn't result in sex move on.

Fair enough. It never ceases to amaze me how a girl can go from deepthroating you on Friday and calling it quits by Saturday. The speed in which girls lose can lose interest never ceases to amaze me.

thanks for the reality check