"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BxPrince24

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Ok, I'm about to start bulking. I'm between 200-215 lbs. I was told on a bodybuilding forum that I should bulk. check out the pics of my torso/arms.









I don't have access to a gym so should I save up for dumbells?

Are the workouts that don't require any equipment good enough to get the job done?

In the bulking thread, it says no cardio. At my current size, does that still apply?

What do I need to buy? Whey protein, vitamins, what else?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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manuva

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I'd start running asap, and strip that fat back.
 

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Originally posted by BxPrince24
Ok, I'm about to start bulking. I'm between 200-215 lbs. I was told on a bodybuilding forum that I should bulk. check out the pics of my torso/arms.


As a beginning lifter, the first piece of advice I have for you is to remove the phrases 'bulk' and 'cut' from your vocabulary.

It's PERFECTLY possible to lose fat and build muscle at the same time, despite popular opinion, so put yourself in some sort of sensible eating/cardio/lifting regime which allows you to cut back on fat and put on lean muscle at a reasonable pace, without periods of heavy dieting/gaining. Your body will thank you for it, and it's much easier to stick to a routine like this than do the old burgers/icecream/heavy cream bulk and egg whites/tuna/catabolism cut cycles.

I don't have access to a gym so should I save up for dumbells?

Are the workouts that don't require any equipment good enough to get the job done?
Yes, save up for a good set of weights. Dumbbells, barbells, a rack and an adjustable bench at the very least. Bodyweight exercises and cardio can get you ripped but don't expect to hold much muscle at all unless you're giving a body a reason to keep it (heavy lifting). And you won't keep getting bigger unless you keep lifting heavier weights - simply put.

In the bulking thread, it says no cardio. At my current size, does that still apply?
EVERYONE should do cardio, regardless of goals. It improves your appetite, cuts fat and improves cardiovascular health. Maybe a skinny ectomorph could get away with 1-2 sessions a week but I'd advise you to do daily cardio (low intensity on an empty stomach).

The 'no cardio while bulking' issue is another reason why the bulk will get you fat. It's just asking for trouble, and if anyone thinks light cardio will hinder your gains then they really need to think again.

What do I need to buy? Whey protein, vitamins, what else?
In this order:
Multivitamin (a good brand), EFAs (fish oil - take a high dose), whey protein, green tea extract (good for cutting fat, plus an excellent antioxidant) - these are the minimum, after that you can consider stuff like extra vitamin c, calcium (assuming you're avoiding dairy) and possibly creatine or taurine.
 

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Originally posted by BxPrince24
Ok, I'm about to start bulking. I'm between 200-215 lbs. I was told on a bodybuilding forum that I should bulk. check out the pics of my torso/arms.









I don't have access to a gym so should I save up for dumbells?

Are the workouts that don't require any equipment good enough to get the job done?

In the bulking thread, it says no cardio. At my current size, does that still apply?

What do I need to buy? Whey protein, vitamins, what else?
At your weight, I think I'd cut first then bulk. I'm not really an experienced body builder though.

You're profile says you're 18, so you may still be in high school. If you are, you're school should have a gym or weight room you can lift in during lunch or after school.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Re: Re: Is this right?

Originally posted by dirtyvibe
At your weight, I think I'd cut first then bulk. I'm not really an experienced body builder though.
Not necessary. Get bigger up and lose the fat gradually over time. Perfectly possible, no muscle-building time wasted, no egg-whites-and-tuna diets. Takes longer but is much more maintainable.
 

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Re: Re: Re: Is this right?

Not necessary to bulk or cut. Get bigger and lose the fat gradually over time. Perfectly possible, no muscle-building time wasted, no egg-whites-and-tuna diets. Takes longer but is much more maintainable.
 

BxPrince24

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Re: Re: Is this right?

Originally posted by dirtyvibe
At your weight, I think I'd cut first then bulk. I'm not really an experienced body builder though.

You're profile says you're 18, so you may still be in high school. If you are, you're school should have a gym or weight room you can lift in during lunch or after school.
graduated already. I'm in an art college, no gym :(. I've decided that today will be my first day of my 8wks.

I'm going to be eating bananas, spinach, chicken, oatmeal, brown rice w/peas, along with slim fast shakes/protein bars. I haven't developed a chart as to what I will be eating and at what time yet.

Since I have no gym equipment, for the mean time I'm going to do push ups, sit ups, leg raises, full body crunches, squats, jogging, and toe touches. I'll split them up into a certain set every day or every other day of the week and do as many reps as I can.
 

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Well this is how today went so far.

Woke Up- Ate 2 bananas and half a bowl of spinach.

about 3 hours later - Ate a bowl of oatmeal.

about 3 hours later - Ate a slim fast protein bar, a chicken filet, and took a multivitamin.

about 3 hours later - Ate a bowl of orange chicken (homemade) with brown rice and peas.

about 1 hour later right after I finished jogging - Drank a slim fast protein shake.

I jogged for about 10-15 minutes. sprinted for about 5 minutes. While jogging I stopped 3 times and did 10 push ups each time.

I also drank about 3-4 bottles of water.

How does that look?
 

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dont do either, just lift, and eventually you will look traumer 5000

bulking def do not do if you got the info at bodybuilding.com, yeah :down: lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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