Is this normal? (Mother / daughter codependency)

[Divorced w 3]

Anyone date a woman who speaks to her mother daily, and the mother asks the woman out to dinner once a week, morning of?

My opinion, the mom is clingy and needs a hobby, the woman needs to break free as an adult, feels massively codependent. Feels like a recipe for tension later.

But I can be persuaded.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Im guessing the mom is a widow or divorced. My woman visits her mom´s house often, at least three times a week.

But her mom´s house is on the way to and from her work, and my woman´s pet lives at her mom´s house rather than with us. It never really registered to me as some sort of red flag. It just kind of made sense and I dont see the harm, nor does it is something that bothers me.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Im guessing the mom is a widow or divorced. My woman visits her mom´s house often, at least three times a week.

But her mom´s house is on the way to and from her work, and my woman´s pet lives at her mom´s house rather than with us. It never really registered to me a some sort of red flag. It just kind of made sense and I dont see the harm, nor does it is something that bothers me.

Married

Out of the way

But fair points.

 

[The Duke]

I think you have to consider the reason. Is it based on codependency or a strong friendship/relationship?

A friend of mine was married to a woman like that. Her parents and sister all lived within a few blocks of each other. It wasn't codependency in his case, it was just close knit relationships within her side of the family. Never bothered my buddy.

If its a girl you are serious with and it bugs you then she probably isn't the girl for you.

My gf isn't super close to her mom but they see each other once or twice a week and talk about every day. A lot of it is boredom on her mom's behalf. Her family always shows up to everyones birthdays, holidays, kids games, baptism's, and goes on trips together. I've never seen such a thing but I'm ok with it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I know people who just have very close relationships to their Mom, and sometimes to both parents.

It could be an issue, but it doesn't automatically make it an issue.

Just like someone who has 5K sitting in their house could be a drug dealer, but it doesn't automatically make them one.

You need more context, this is far too general to make any determination about and you likely won't get enough to know one way or the other for quite some time.

 

[sevbucmash]

Married

Out of the way

Hahaha. Yea right.

In certain cultures it's the norm.

The girl you speaking of by any chance Russian, or somewhere around that area?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Hahaha. Yea right.

In certain cultures it's the norm.

The girl you speaking of by any chance Russian, or somewhere around that area?

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